paying for dinner
 

i never buy hb's drinks when i'm out, i let them buy for me. If you meet a hb on a date afterwards and your out for something to eat, what do you do. I know that if you pay for everything it lowers your social value, but wemon dont like a cheap guy also, so I don't know how to handle this one, any ideas?

Do whatever you feel like bro! Stop over-analysing everything.

I think there's nothing wrong with paying for dinner and drinks, as long as she's doing the same for you.

Doesnt matter as long as your sure of yourself when you do it. Never make a big deal of it if you pay. Besides youve already created attraction, you want to give her some value.

And paying for drinks only lowers your social value if your doing it to seek rapport with someone who hasnt earnt it.

AJay

Doesnt matter as long as your sure of yourself when you do it. Never make a big deal of it if you pay. Besides youve already created attraction, you want to give her some value.

And paying for drinks only lowers your social value if your doing it to seek rapport with someone who hasnt earnt it.

AJay

When I used to go out I once got talking to this group of girls and the question of drinks came up ' buy us a drink she said' ..no I said.. this was followed by a conversation about less and less guys seem to buy us drinks one girl said it actually costs me money some nights. So I told them why, 'no way' ' and 'are you serious' followed by you're not one of those guys are you, to which I replied of course I am.

I would always offer to pay the bill, I would rather do that than ask her for half as that just makes you look like a tight cunt. I would however expect as time goes on that the girl offers to pay once in a while!

I just hand over my CC while talking about something else, as if its inconsequential (which it is ...)

Then when your credit card statement comes through, you can invoice her

LOL. What else could be on that relationship invoice? :)

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Ok, so the conclusion is:

if your out and your building rapport, get them to pay for drinks etc (you can buy back)
Once attraction is achieved, you pay for most of the dinners, she pays sometimes. Or is it more, you pay a bill and she pays nextime?

In terms of going half's on a bill, i don't do that anyway and i know it looks tight
Does that sound about right