Don't know what to do after achieving my goal!
 

Hi, i've been gaming for about 6-8 months with quite frequent success (as much as i can fit around my university studies), but i am now in a bit of a dilemma, a similar dilemma i have been in before but with a bit of a twist, but now i have people to turn to, so i'm after your help.

i've been at universtiy 2 years and been friends with this girl for that period of time (yes, that same old chestnut).
i became really close friends with her since this february, and during this period she broke up with her boyfriend. our friendship (through my slow and steading new knowledge of gaming) finally escalated to us sleeping together 2 weeks ago. obviously very pleased with this as we get on amazinging well, she is stunning, and she even questioned why we hadn't got together prior to that night (bad game on my part not reading the ioi's correctly, but i really liked the girl so didn't want to mess it up)
now, my dilemma is this.....after we slept together, i didn't really know what to do. i am not used to getting with girls i have any intention of forming any meaningful relationship with and tend to just have one-night stands and didn't have a clue what to do after sleeping with this girl i had been after for ages and actually really liked.
Now, these past couple of weeks have been quite strange. I saw her out next night but it was wierd as i wasn't sure if she wanted to get with me again or not. she text me in the morning appologising for being odd with me and said she had some stuff going on and was sorry i was getting dragged into it. i gave her a couple days space and then went back to being normal to her how we were before we slept together cus i didn't want her to think i would be off with her, so had good banter and was all gd.

But now, i saw her a few days ago with a few friends for a night out (we've left uni now for the summer, she lives quite close to me) and i really wanted to be with her, but i was not sure how to approach it becuase, again, i didn't want to get rejected if she thinks it was just a one night thing we had.

My final point, which brings up my question, is this. I am actually 2 months away from leaving home to study abroad for 9 months. I know i have no chance of a relationship as a 9 month long distance relationship in unlikely, but i am seeing her in a few days with some friends, and really wanna try correct my mistakes of failing to continue on the level of more than just friends which i achieved.
so, 1) how do i go about returning to this state and showing that i actually really like her? Is it best for me to just man up and tell her i like her, sayin i hope i can spend as much time with her before i leave and hope she feels the same way (which is a clear possibility as we get on really well and she evidently wanted to get with me for a while) and if so, what should i say? -or- do i try a different approach?

and 2) what should i have done so if this situation ever happens again, i don't mess it up?

Cheers for the help guys.

I think you should tell her you like her or show her by being using your Pua skills brother! but I wouldn't say you hope you can spend as much time with her as possible, it sounds a bit needy and might put her off.

It's obvious she likes you you slept with her and your still friends so go for it you have the skills!

As for what to do if it happens again it seems like it was her issues being funny about it the next night after all she did apologise.

Let us know how it goes and welcome introduce yourself on the intro page

I agree with Tom on this. Just go for it and tell her. Better knowing what would've been regardless of the outcome in the long-run I would say!

Ritz

cool, cheers for the advice guys.
i've got a "date" with her this week, and i think i'm just gunna b cocky funny (i'm quite like that anyway) about the whole situation and try not take it too seriously so she doesn't think its an issue but at the same time saying things in a confident way to try return to the frame of more than just friends. My theory is if i just have an amazing date with her while portraying that we definately were always going to be and should be more than just friends (in a joking way at least) then she will hopefully start to see it in that way too as she is clearly in two minds about the situation, so i'll push her into the frame i want.
i'll hopefully be seeing her quite a few times this holiday period so i can build on that, and then if all else fails, i'll just man up and tell her, but without being too needy (your def right about that one Tom.)

I'll go introduce myself on the intro page now, although i'm going to change my user name to Flex, so thats who I am.

Flex is already taken, so new user name will b Stats....will go introduce myself in a sec.