Text game - how would you respond to this?

[bristoldjm]

I'm texting a girl that goes to the same uni as me, and we're getting pretty friendly. She normally texts me after about 1 minute of getting my messages, and she normally texts me first in a day.

She's been cut up about her ex for a while, and is in the process of "moving on". Turned down a few dates with other people, and is in the process of changing her look as part of moving on. I haven't pushed a date for that reason. She knows I'm interested as I've been direct without sounding needy. I think I'm doing reasonably well, and will meet up with her next week when she's back from seeing family.

Tonight, she's texting me and I'm teasing her for not understanding Donnie Darko, which she's watching, and my teases are going well. However, then she said a line which threw me a little:

Me: "So, you understanding the film yet? I saw a puff of smoke in the distance, was that your head exploding?"
Her: "Haha. Yeah, I'm getting it, my mum's not though, she's gone to bed."
Me: "I'm impressed, I'll have to think about upgrading you from 'just a pretty face' to something better."
Her: "Oi! :-("
Me: "Stop sulking, it's not attractive."
Her: "I'm not sulking, and I'm don't want to be attractive for the time being."

I can't think of a funny line back to that.....that's kind of a conversation killer line.

[aofelix]

lol just say what you think

"lol.. thats kind of a conversation killer."

[Phil]

Originally Posted by bristoldjm

I'm texting a girl that goes to the same uni as me, and we're getting pretty friendly. She normally texts me after about 1 minute of getting my messages, and she normally texts me first in a day.

She's been cut up about her ex for a while, and is in the process of "moving on". Turned down a few dates with other people, and is in the process of changing her look as part of moving on. I haven't pushed a date for that reason. She knows I'm interested as I've been direct without sounding needy. I think I'm doing reasonably well, and will meet up with her next week when she's back from seeing family.

Tonight, she's texting me and I'm teasing her for not understanding Donnie Darko, which she's watching, and my teases are going well. However, then she said a line which threw me a little:

Me: "So, you understanding the film yet? I saw a puff of smoke in the distance, was that your head exploding?"
Her: "Haha. Yeah, I'm getting it, my mum's not though, she's gone to bed."
Me: "I'm impressed, I'll have to think about upgrading you from 'just a pretty face' to something better."
Her: "Oi! :-("
Me: "Stop sulking, it's not attractive."
Her: "I'm not sulking, and I'm don't want to be attractive for the time being."

I can't think of a funny line back to that.....that's kind of a conversation killer line.

say,

well you seem to be gettin good at it

[AJay]

lol i carnt see an issue with it,not a conversartion killer at all. Just dont think into shit so much! Looks like its going well.Shes more than likely cueing you to ask about her emotional state or to compliment her, you could ask her: "So why dont you want to be attractive? your not exactly doing a very good job of being unattractive ".

AJay

[Phil]

Originally Posted by AJay

lol i carnt see an issue with it,not a conversartion killer at all. Just dont think into shit so much! Looks like its going well.Shes more than likely cueing you to ask about her emotional state or to compliment her, you could ask her: "So why dont you want to be attractive? your not exactly doing a very good job of being unattractive ".

AJay

quite the opposite i think, if a girl cues for a compliment, play the opposite card

compliments should be unexpected

[bristoldjm]

Thanks for your suggestions guys. I quite like the "you're not doing a very good job of it" or "thats a coincidence - I was just thinking how unattractive you're sounding". I'm trying to balance the line between cheeky and insulting though, especially if she is genuinely in a low self esteem state.

I am over thinking things. I get a lot of girls message me saying "hey, how are you - good weekend?". I always struggle to reply to this without saying "it was awesome thanks, I did x and x, how about you?" which I'm sure is fine, and its polite and shows interest in them but it always strikes me as a very dull start. How do you respond to those sort of messages?

[PostScript]

ure stuck in the logical content of conversation, same as your other post, invest in Juggler's ebook to get you out of your head as regards content and to give you a liberating basic conversational structure. i suspect ure gonna be good.

PS

[Phil]

Originally Posted by PostScript

ure stuck in the logical content of conversation, same as your other post, invest in Juggler's ebook to get you out of your head as regards content and to give you a liberating basic conversational structure. i suspect ure gonna be good.

PS

trust me, if u wanna have a conversational structure, do it face to face, i dont give a fuck what ebook its in

text messaging is for flirting! its not for building a rapport or learning about someone.

be cheeky, dont always txt as soon as they text.
dont always look to set a date up on every set of texts, this is a need for solidarity, for your own affirmation.

jib it, have fun... do it another time.

[bristoldjm]

I've got a copy of Juggler's ebook, haven't read through it yet. I scanned the contents and there wasn't a section on text game, so I'll have to read through it all, as he probably explains things as he goes along.

[bristoldjm]

Originally Posted by Phil

trust me, if u wanna have a conversational structure, do it face to face, i dont give a fuck what ebook its in

text messaging is for flirting! its not for building a rapport or learning about someone.

be cheeky, dont always txt as soon as they text.
dont always look to set a date up on every set of texts, this is a need for solidarity, for your own affirmation.

jib it, have fun... do it another time.

Good advice. I have met up with this girl, and we had a pretty fun drink. She goes away travelling for a year in a few months, so I'm looking to just have fun with her before she goes. Haven't entirely figured out if she's open to this or not, so the drink we had was just a friendly one. I reckon I can get in there though. I'm texting her because she's seeing family until Wednesday so can't see her until then. She texts and says "hey, how are you? Having a good weekend, or having a good day?". I hate just replying with a similar type message.

I was thinking of replying with something joking and over the top, like "I'm awesome thanks, couldn't do a lot this weekend as my mind was preoccupied with thinking about you 24/7", but thats a very delicate humour which might come across as a bit weird, so I can't quite balance that right yet.

Obviously, I could stop overanalysing, and just say "I'm great, I did x and x, how are you?". Nothing wrong with that, but it is how I'd respond to a friend. I'd like something a bit flirtier, but my mind is rubbish at thinking up things.