Do you thik if you go out with the intention of approaching, you will eventually??

[Chris.Kayden]

i was wondering if you go out with the intention of approaching, eve if you cat for the first 3 days. Naturally with consistence you will approach at some point?

Go with a friend and make him make you approach...

[Y45]

always best to go with someone to begin with. I agree with danieljamie. Get your friend to pick out a HB and tell you to "go approach her!". Also another good reason to take someone with you is so that they can observ things that you miss like IOI's, body language, lack of kino etc.

Peace
Y45

[sapphire]

Originally Posted by Chris.Kayden

i was wondering if you go out with the intention of approaching, eve if you cat for the first 3 days. Naturally with consistence you will approach at some point?

No you wont, something will have to happen to break your pattern of non-approach. That could be an act of will power, desperation, peer pressure but if you think that you will magically just start approaching by the mere act of going out and "wanting" to approach then your labouring under a fallacy.

[PostScript]

Originally Posted by sapphire

No you wont, something will have to happen to break your pattern of non-approach. That could be an act of will power, desperation, peer pressure but if you think that you will magically just start approaching by the mere act of going out and "wanting" to approach then your labouring under a fallacy.

I agree. The model of cold approach made me so nervous I was a fucking jibbering wreck. Just cos the community does something doesn't make it wise necessarily for everyone. If you've got strong AA, the logical way is to break it apart bit by bit, start with newbie eye contact missions where you just work on eye contact with people while you walk down the street. Then a smile. Then body language. Then talk to shop assistants as it's "situational" and they are there to serve you, makes it a bit less confrontational to your brain. Then escalate with these shop assistants. Also, do this with everyone all the time, not just birds, the more you make it an automatic part of who you are the less you will feel "on stage" around birds. It "normalises" your interactions with women, and treating them normally is where it's at.

PS

Originally Posted by PostScript

I agree. The model of cold approach made me so nervous I was a fucking jibbering wreck. Just cos the community does something doesn't make it wise necessarily for everyone. If you've got strong AA, the logical way is to break it apart bit by bit, start with newbie eye contact missions where you just work on eye contact with people while you walk down the street. Then a smile. Then body language. Then talk to shop assistants as it's "situational" and they are there to serve you, makes it a bit less confrontational to your brain. Then escalate with these shop assistants. Also, do this with everyone all the time, not just birds, the more you make it an automatic part of who you are the less you will feel "on stage" around birds. It "normalises" your interactions with women, and treating them normally is where it's at.

PS

I agree.. after all, women are normal :P to an extent

[Chris.Kayden]

the thing is me an my freind done alot of approaches on saturday and i broke my AA. i want to keep this up during the day even if my freind is not with me

[PostScript]

Originally Posted by Chris.Kayden

the thing is me an my freind done alot of approaches on saturday and i broke my AA. i want to keep this up during the day even if my freind is not with me

*bangs head on table* make your mind up

PS

[AJay]

How many woman do you want to approach in one day??

If you really want to approach woman on your own just go up and ask for the time or something, then whilst she tells you the time make an observation about her "my god you remind me of a koala bear". Or anything really, something different that will generate some interest. But its no good telling someone what to say, you must feel inside! but anyway going up and asking for the time is alot less nerve racking than going direct, as if you bottle it or decide your not intrested anymore (coz she sounds like a frigin chimp or something) you can just go on to the next one with pride intact. You can always say afterward "i didnt really need the time, i just had to take a closer look to see if my distant perception was correct".

Go out and perposely embaress yourself when your all on your own, helps alot to build confidence on the approach.... hell i dont even like the word approach!!!!!! its speaking with other human beings for fuck sake!

Compare and contrast

AJay

[Status]

Originally Posted by PostScript

I agree. The model of cold approach made me so nervous I was a fucking jibbering wreck. Just cos the community does something doesn't make it wise necessarily for everyone. If you've got strong AA, the logical way is to break it apart bit by bit, start with newbie eye contact missions where you just work on eye contact with people while you walk down the street. Then a smile. Then body language. Then talk to shop assistants as it's "situational" and they are there to serve you, makes it a bit less confrontational to your brain. Then escalate with these shop assistants. Also, do this with everyone all the time, not just birds, the more you make it an automatic part of who you are the less you will feel "on stage" around birds. It "normalises" your interactions with women, and treating them normally is where it's at.

PS

Bang on. And to add to that, a bit of dutch courage will help a great deal. Just don't get wasted. Then drink less and less until alcohol isn't a factor.