Stuck

[Deezy]

About 3 months ago, I was staying at my friends and his girlfriends house and they had a party. Only a small one though, anyway she inviter 4 of her friends (2 were hot, other two not so much) the one i instantly took a shine to seemed to have "Fuck off" on her head. So i just spoke with her friends a while. Gradually was getting drunker and i found myself laughing with her making cheerio trails all over the house - stuff got messy id had quite a bit of Jack Daniels and ended up throwing up a little while she helped me - getting the water, rubbing my back etc. Then bed time. There was 2 blow up beds on the floor one with a mate on and she was on the other i had my head on the bottom of one, with my back on the hard floor and my legs split between ner body so her legs were on my chest. Weird way to sleep i know. I started messing around with her feet until i got next to her on the blow up bed. Started doing stuff which stopped just short of intercourse and i didnt know if she liked me or was just going with it as id made a move on her so i stopped kissing and tried to sleep and she initiated it again kissing my neck dry humping my crotch. I understand she didnt want sex as there was 4 other people in this small room. She had work at like half 7 and it was now quarter to, when she texted her boss saying shes ill. Which further convinved me she liked me as if she didnt any excuse to go would do, especially work. Since then her friend has slyly told me she doesnt like "white boys" (shes mixed race). and im the only white guy shes done anything with. another friend told me she likes me but in what way they wouldnt tell. but when i speak with her via texts she doesnt seemed too interested even though shes always asking when im coming back up or if im going here there etc. I realise she might be playing hard to get..but im not too sure especially the ways shes distant and the fact she isnt attracted to white guys. Has anyobdy had a similar situation? Or any advice or insight? Cos im fucking confused. Lol.

[AJay]

Hold back a bit maybe, give the illusion of a world she wants to be a part of! Speak with everyone who knows her but forget about her for a while. She will come running once she thinks she carnt have you anymore. If she thinks she can have you whenever she wants then shes not going to be in a rush to hook up with you again. Your valuable and will be led astray very easily! Ummm can u give an example of some of the txt you are sending and the replies??

AJay

[PostScript]

So basically she enjoyed spending time with you, looked after you while you puked, reciprocated when you escalated, re-initiated when you got in your own way, and has since been asking you where you are and what you're up to..and you're holding out till she literally pins you down and sit's on your face so you can be sure if she likes you. Do I really need to go on?

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[Deezy]

i know what your saying PostScript but convos go like "how are u? im gd, u? yeah im cool, what u been up to? same old u? same." like she wont start convos with me. because i dont live where she does like a hour and a half away, she asks occassionaly are u coming to this party and stuff like that. AJay thanks for the advice but im asking for help because she isnt the type to chase if you know what i mean. im meeting my friend on neutral ground for a 5 day party and shes coming with a couple her friends, i dont wanna embarrass myself is she rejects me. the whole "white guy" thing keeps throwin me off.

[Deezy]

plus one of her best friends is the girlfriend of my best friend and the girl told her what happened between us and my best mates girl would usually be like "u make a gd couple" or try and hook u up, one of those types of ppl. that wasnt the case she didnt say the girl had said anything special about me, just about what we did.

[PostScript]

Mate, fear is driving your mind to grasp hold of every little insubstantial thing you've heard or inferred, and using it to logically fuck with you, just like it did when it stopped you escalating before. If you continue to let it, you will be nice and paranoid and full of intentions when you see her, in other words: buggered. You were golden last time because you tore up the party, were having fun, didn't think and just escalated. It was sufficiently effective to earn you a pass for throwing up. You're not going to get a written invitation from her, countersigned by all her friends, just go, have fun, rekindle what you had organically and escalate.

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[Deezy]

PostScrpt thanks mate. One of my friends has told me near enough the same thing that im thinking too much. I just need to let things happen. Your advice really helped, cheers.