Confused girl
 

After alot of good responses to Dan300 thread 'I don't want to share her', I thought I might aswell get this out my system.

I was seeing a young teacher starting about 4 months ago until all went downhill a few weeks ago. To be fair I went overboard with the game stuff after sleeping with her, obsessed with holding the frame, deliberate late txt replies, keeping her on the edge with pre selection which drove her to paranoia.

The last 3 weeks Iv'e been going through a weired combination of 'I miss you's and flakes. It's like she still has feelings for me but is logically trying to resist it. I arranged the first two meets but there were excuses when the day arrived. So I allowed it.
Then she sparks up her emotions again saying I still miss you, etc. We talked about it, said she was extremely confused and afraid of getting hurt and that she is scared.
An example message - 'I wanted us to work. So badly. But I get scared. So scared of likin someone, of getting hurt.Of not being what someone wants me to be. I miss u x'

So I gave her the ultimatum, we set up a fixed day, and that she was clear it was make or break. The day soon came round and she sent a vague response of a viral flu affecting her glands and she was sent home early. It was open ended, no suggestion of an alternative day, probably want me to chase for that again. True or not I dont know, I dont want to make accusations on a medical issue. I must admit she does'nt seem one to lie but its been an incredible coincidence.

So now I don't know how to go about this, I believe she is'nt trying to play around but is genuinely confused as fuck. I usually know when to walk away but I dont think this one is a total goner.

been here!! especially tryin to control frame...

the excuses that sound right!! she is in a bad way over u... and there aint no goin back

u gotta let this go now, it WILL NOT END WELL FOR YOU!! she will be fine she already took the dive,

as u get worse she gets better... DONT LET HER PULL U INTO IT!

CUT HER LOOSE NOW!!! MOVE ONE!!! i know u like her but it isnt worth ur sole!! remember next time to stop bein a cunt and usin pua after u get them

U HAVE BEEN WARNED

Thats bad really

What do you actually want out of all this?
Date her
shag her again

what?

I would just say
Tell you what, i like you, you are cool-- lets just go out and enjoy ourselves as friends and see what happens, no pressure, no stress just some giggles

leave it at that
if she flakes on that Eject permanently

this is so weird I'm in a similar situation with a young teacher.

Its sounds like you've gamed her so fucking well you messed her programming up and the result is she seriuosly likes you. from what you wrote I would guess she is really scared you'll hurt her.

Go for another meet but if shes likes you as much as it sounds and you just want to bang her, I'd do the decent thing and awalk away. Thats what I will do.

Attraction techniques are just that - ATTRACTION

Attraction techniques are in general bad in the long term, a relationship is based on balance and equality, give and take, compromise and understanding. What is healthy is contradictory to what attracts in many cases.

Don't use attraction techniques too much as part of a relationship, it's dangerous. Often it creates paranoia, fear and confusion.

First of all thanks for all your replies.

The thing is, I cant even get a meet, she sais she still wants to see me but closes up as soon as I try to do anything either that or turns everything into an argument as a defense.

UPDATE - took the gamble and foned her up yesterday saying I was in town and see if I could drop by and say hi, she said she was watching a film with her friend (female) which i no was true. said she would txt back later.

10pm 6 hours on - me 'geeek! :) wheres my txt?'
11.12pm - her 'sorrry! u ok? out tonight?x'
11.30pm - me 'maybe possibly. look for me. say hi this time!'
she sees me in the club and sais "I said hiii!' in an aggressive tone (she puts on this act whenever she sees me now) and acts cold, so does her friend so i wonder off with my mate.
12.36am - her 'one minute ur there the next ur gone. u say i should say hi but u bugger off'
12.40am - me 'Im socialising, il come back later'
I see her makin out with some dude, went up to her a couple minutes later and said "You could have just told me you were seeing someone, its fine", her "Im not seeing anyone!!', I stay calm but she always acts aggressive and turns everything into an argument. her "I do still want to see you,you had all night to come and talk to me!", me "I told you I was socialising, ok let's talk now then", her "No! you're only talking to me because you just saw me kiss a guy!" and walks off. see the mind screw guys? she just turns everything into a defense making it impossible for me, but still accusing me of not 'trying'.
2.38am - her 'you mate knows how to act around girls maybe u could learn something from him!' this txt was out of the blue when my mate pulled some bird.
3.24am - After the club closed I was at the taxi rank discussing the situation with my mate when she sent me another txt 'I want to keep seeing you but you don't seem to understand what I would like from you. You say you like me and you miss me but you only show it in private, its like your embarrassed by me in public. It's not fair. I want someone who isnt ashamed of me' WTF?

I dont know if that kiss was a jealousy plot but i know that i was always on the corner of her eye and even talking to a girl she could watch me like a hawk, i cant deny i did the same. she even wanted me to introduce my friend to her.
Anyway after chattin with my mate about it i decided it was enough and sent her this when i got home
4.15am - 'heres how it is.i want to keep seeing u too, but ur makin it impossible for me.ive tried the last 3 weeks, u cant say i havnt.embarrassed of u?..NO.txt and fb chat is getting us nowhere, so this will be my last msg.if u want us together then phone me, or u know where i am.then we might actually make a start.its ur choice.if not, kl, we move on.' and to note i havnt heared anything yet up to this post, but im gonna keep to my pact and try to take my mind of it.

welcome to the highway to knowhere, it all sounds like the tirade of 2 people who are 15 years old at school.

Nothing but pain will come from this.. eject

nice discussion but happens bad.......