Cheating

[Loke]

I've been in a relationship that started off exceptionally volatile, with weird revelations and whatnot from the start. So I wont go into all the details.

We broke up last year as she wasn't feeling the same way I did. Then a week and a half later we got back together and things have been great since, with a lot more ups than downs.

Now I just found out that during our first "round" she got drunk one night and snogged some guy while out of town. I got a text that very night saying she was being hit on left right and center, but that I could trust her. Guess things changed after she sent that text.

She told me this when we where talking about lying, white lies etc and she admitted that her worst lie to me was lying to me about what happened that night.

I also snogged some girl early on in our first "round" so I can't judge to harshly, but I was honest about it to her. I think it's the dishonesty that bothers me the most. I'm one of those guys that trust people from the start and just cut people out of my life if they show themselves as dishonest.

She has said she didn't feel much for me back then, and it's why she ended it. Things changed a lot since then though, and things have gotten very serious from both of us. I spent xmas with her parents, we're talking about moving in together, kids, and more.

Not sure why I'm writing this post atm, but I guess I felt the need to ease the burden somewhat or something.

My 2nd job involves managing hot girls in clubs/bars doing promotions for jagermaister so I get lots of social proof in clubs/bars and this hot bartender been giving me IoIs. So I # closed her last night, made me feel a bit better.

/Loke

[monkeybuster]

Loki, not so much of a reply, but more of a question... does your girlfriend know you're out sarging? If so, how does she feel about it?

From personal experience, revenge cheating helps for like a day. Then it just makes you either wana cheat more, and just fall out of love with her completely. Thats how me and my ex split up few years ago...

[Knave]

My take is slightly different and probabaly way off the question you asked.

You shouldn't be on this forum if you have a girlfriend I know a lot of folk will disagree, but that's fine its a forum.

I know certain aspects of PU have positive outcomes ie confidence, but if you want to learn skills to get women when you're in a relationship something is broken.

So either log off and work on your relationship or dump her and learn the skills to get you any woman you want. I really thiunk its that clear cut.

However, having the skill set to pick up women is great in case your relationship does end, saves a lot of time and energy...

[Loke]

Originally Posted by monkeybuster

Loki, not so much of a reply, but more of a question... does your girlfriend know you're out sarging? If so, how does she feel about it?

She knows I'm out sarging from day 1, not that I've done much sarging the last couple of months.

She always said she was cool about it, but she told me one of the reasons she didn't feel much about me in the beginning is that it's hard to trust someone who goes into a bar and comes out with a handful of phone numbers and flirts with every hot girl in there. She also said she found it flattering that I could do that, but always came back to her, but that I was extremely hard to trust cause it seemed I was always getting offers and my phone was constantly buzzing with texts from girls. She at one point asked me to stop taking numbers cause it was making her unhappy.

Usually we would go out separately in town, both of us would flirt and have fun without doing anything that would be considered bad, at least that's the idea. Then we meet up around midnight.

/Loke

[nova]

Originally Posted by Knave

You shouldn't be on this forum if you have a girlfriend...

...either log off and work on your relationship or dump her and learn the skills to get you any woman you want. I really thiunk its that clear cut.

I have a girlfirend. I find this forum theraputic. There is no end goal to pickup remember Knave. My relationship could end tomorrow. I don't want it to end today, but I might wake up tomorrow and be sick or bored of her, or she might dump me! This forum keeps my mind open to the possibilities that I created for myself through joining it in the first place. This I believe is a healthy place to hang out, single or relationship. After all, you don't get a girlfriend and live happily ever after do you? I think Loke questions proove this. We are all learning about relationships on here, not just pickup. It's a constant process. Where else is Loke to take his issues, a socially conditioned relationship adviser who writes a column for The Daily Mail.

[Loke]

Originally Posted by nova

I have a girlfirend. I find this forum theraputic. There is no end goal to pickup remember Knave. My relationship could end tomorrow. I don't want it to end today, but I might wake up tomorrow and be sick or bored of her, or she might dump me! This forum keeps my mind open to the possibilities that I created for myself through joining it in the first place. This I believe is a healthy place to hang out, single or relationship. After all, you don't get a girlfriend and live happily ever after do you? I think Loke questions proove this. We are all learning about relationships on here, not just pickup. It's a constant process. Where else is Loke to take his issues, a socially conditioned relationship adviser who writes a column for The Daily Mail.

People like Nova is why I'm still on this forum. Relationships are part of PU too in my opinion, generally a lot more inner game based, but this forum is very much into it's inner game

[Refl3x]

Originally Posted by Knave

I really thiunk its that clear cut.

Its easy to sit on a high horse and throw righteous lighting bolts at the peons

When you have been with somone a long time, who you love but arent quite happy with, things are NEVER that clear cut

Lifes a Journey

[legend]

To be honest, I wouldnt flirt or kiss a girl if Im in a serious relationship, I dont need to. But that's just me, I guess. But leaving this forum and not hanging out and having a laugh with the likes of Jaz, Swype, Darood, Terry, Red (guys from this forum) is not even worth considering. In addition, I learn a lot about relationship, social skills, building confidence, girls etc etc in the two years I have been in this forum, and all for free. WOuld I leave? Not a chance..!!