my open relationship and how to manage this...

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Dear folks,

I love the energy and the helpfulness in this forum

Very quick information about my marriage:
Duration: 10 years one kid.

My wife is considered as my LIFEPARTNER, because we have good chemistry also have sex every day. The reason why we are still married is my son and the because it's functioning well, so why not. But since I have this inner desire of mine, to be good at GAME, which I also do a lot, and she knows.. as I building up my social skills day to day, I met some good looking Chicks, 22 years old, 35 year old etc... and I also pulled to my place about three times (not recently).

My main frame here is: Many women today do not have issues with open relationships. Heck, many women today have affairs with married men and it's not an issue for them.
And I oparate within this frame.

But in general no one every asked about my relationship. I just talked and talked and teased, made assumptions etc.

But sometimes, when the interaction goes deeper, I get questions like:

"do you live alone?" "Are you single?" "How old are you, do you have a girlfriend?"

Mostly I answer this kinda questions with "I am taken" and I change the topic. thats it.


My wife once "said" she is not interested in having sex with other people and of course I dont take it as it is... since when the day is long enough women say things belong these lines ... also when I game I realized I always get this from any girl : "You know we are not gonna have sex tonight" but I just past the these tests whith: Of course not we are gonna meditate or We will just drink tea and go to the church. ...

I also did some fantasies where she (my wife) masturbated to a fantasy I was making out in my head: "Yeah, and imagine you are on me right now, and another guy cames in opens the door and licks your titties etc... and she was okay with that.

Like SW15 said: "you need to fix the parameters of your "open relationship" before concerning yourself with disclosing your open relationship to women."
what exactly is missing here?

We agreed I also have sex with her, she is priority and then other women .. but she does not want me to pull at home when she is there and my kid as well. which is understandible (we live together)..


She agreed to meet other people outside and if they are okay, we can be friends... but how can I initially get the right women?

Should I still do what I did (Cold approach) and meet the right person (bisexual) to introduce her to my wife and see how things will go?

And after one girl likes me, I can go further with her.. this is my plan for right now.

I just want to step into my vision and get what I want. Dont get me wrong guys.

My question: Should I still hide that I am married? I think I get confused and have the feeling its not okay. Becasue what when I am out with my son or family and this girl sees me there? She will maybe get crazy ? and I really dont need this in my life.


Please reply if you have been in a similar situation as well--- or know how to handle this situation... thank you guys...