Can I have your thoughts on this please?
 

I got in contact with this girl via plentyoffish (shake your collective heads in disappointment if you must). After initial POF e-mail talk, I was keen to meet up with her and suggested so. She said that she'd like to chat more first via text/msn. We added each other on flunkbook.com as well

We've been texting each other all of this week, and on Tuesday she suggested that we meet up. I said we'd have food and drinks tonight.

She texted me yesterday, I replied and asked a question to which I didn't receive a reply. So I left it. Today, I texted her asking what time should we meet up, and suggested 7pm. No reply. Left it a few hours and tried ringing her, but went straight to voicemail. Shortly after, I sent a text saying that I've been trying to get hold of her, hope everything is ok, if I dont hear anything by 6pm I'll take it that it's off.

She replied just before 6pm saying something like 'sorry taken so long, something's come. Maybe another time.

I replied - "Maybe"? Are you interested or not? I'm big on honesty, if not don't worry I'm a big boy I can take it.

She replied saying "What I've seen of you so far I'm interested. But I'd like us to chat some more on msn or something. I find dates terrifying so I like to chat a lot first. I am interested".

I haven't replied.

From the photos I've seen of her (which are many) and the communication through msn and txt's, I am attracted to her. But I don't know what to make of this. I can't understand her last message, it doesn't make enough sense to me. I would like to meet her, but I don't know if I can be arsed with this bullshit, quite frankly?

Would appreciate your take on it guys please. Do you think it's the lost cause that I think it is? I suspect that she's lying, or am I being harsh?

Cheers.

There's only so much you can chase. It's funny that she says that she is interested but did not answer your other texts. It does happen though that women can be interested and still play silly buggers. As my Nigerian mate so eloquently puts it, "The women, they have fish brain."

You asked her if she is interested or not. I'm not sure if I would have done this. Just presume that she is (or has every reason to be), whether she's demonstrated this or not.

It may be that she is shy or it may be that she is full of shit. Either way, if she is interested enough, she will communicate with you.

I don't like this dragging it out via msn balls though and I'm sure you don't either... Tell her to let you know when she is ready. Maybe text her and say, "Give us a shout next time your online."

Have a chat with her, make her laugh, then arrange to meet her.

Firstly, u would be entitled to feel be aggrieved with her behaviour as she sounds like an immature annoying little beatch.

She suggested meeting, but in stupid girly way meaning sometime in next month ahead. Whereas u are male, like pussy, and seizes on this to make it that u wanna meet in, like, five minutes time. This fundamental mismatch between u -- outgoing and upfront -- and her -- more reserved and less trusting -- has come to light here. Plus your more mature and not.unreasonable expectations on communications around how to meet up.

I suggest in light of evidence presented that u leave it for a bit. Don't initiate communications. If she contacts u, reply in order to not give rude impression of ignoring msg, but leave it until NEXT day to reply. U should be in control and not have this beatch having u run round in circles. She might never change!

Put this one to the back of your mind if i was you.

Just shoot the odd text now and again but don't chase. Like Rebus says, if she gets back to you don't be in any rush to reply.

This is just one girl, find some more and this will disappear from your mind.

@Midas touch - good advice I think man. I've decided to take it.

I believe that she could be a lovely women. But I think she is someone who is a shy, low on confidence and self-esteem (I used to be like that not so long ago). Out of 1,000 or so photos on her facebook, she's smiling showing her teeth in only 3 or 4 of them. Yet, she has a beautiful smile. I'm prepared to perservere with her for a short while. But if she cancels on me again, then game over. At the same time, I'm still going to keep my eyes open for other opportunities of course

1)She is either only partially interested in you, and is using you to fill her time, giveing her an attention fix - via txt - with no intention to ever meet up

2)She is leaving you hanging while she is purseuing other guys, you are on a list (you are a fallback option)

3)She generally is a bit socially retarded.

Welcome to Online Dating :)

I would
Bollocks to txting her all the time-- totaly waste of energy and you are playing into her Reality.
Arrange a phone chat via txt-- talk on the phone, build comfort etc
Go arrange another meet -- if she resists

Move on - totally forget about her

@Refl3x - all of those points have crossed my mind. I think you're spot on with your conclusion as well. I'll try those steps and if nothing - then move on and totally forget about her as you've suggested.

Maestro, I had a long distance relationship (well, I say long: it was about an hour's drive, but since I didn't drive at the time, it was rarity to see the girl), and to start with she was exactly the same: she was texting me all the time, we'd talk loads, then when we arranged a 'first date', she suddenly started ignoring me, right up until an hour before we were supposed to meet - by which time I had decided not to bother. She made the excuse that she had left her phone at a friends the day before and had only just gone and picked it up.
She said she was sorry, I accepted, and we arranged another date for the following week.
Same thing happened again, with a modified excuse.
By this point I had figured that she was just dead shy - she liked me, but she was terrified about 'dating'.
As I was a complete tool (and I was really into this girl), I kept at it (building comfort etc. by phoning, texting) and eventually we met up quite spontaneously (she seemed to be in a really perky mood one night, we had done loads of flirting over the phone, and I just told her that I was gonna go over to her house that night. And that was that)
However, building comfort to that level did take a few months.

So my advice is that if you are really into this girl, and you feel it's worth the investment, then go for it. But don't chase her - let her figure out when she's ready, and in the meantime, go out and have fun - meet other chicks. Don't get one-itis over her.
You have nothing to lose this way: if she thinks your out having loads of fun, she might get her arse in gear before she misses her chance. On the other hand, if she's not interested, at least you haven't wasted your time chasing her.

Much love,

Craigus

Online Game is all about Numbers, its illogical to invest too much energy into one girl because a fit girl online will be getting 20 messages + a day, you are just a number and you are disposable-- so just like trading stocks/shares you need to set the level that you are willing to let your shares drop to before you sell and bail out.

I have online gamed for a LONG time, met easily 150+ girls, shagged a good 60 of them.

good looks on a chick get her foot in the door and past the (i want to bone you) stage-- after that they need to have personality, otherwise they just drag your ass down