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Midas touch · 15-12-2010, 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by whistleblower

It definitely sucks when girls cancel on you, it happens so dont beat yourself up too much. It may not be down to anything you did wrong.

Best thing you can do from here, move on and meet some new girls. Get in touch with her after Xmas if you still want to see her by then. Hopefully by that point you will have other options and you wont give her a second thought.

Take the positives, your first # close. Learn from it.

That's true; there are often many things out of our control and then we start to over-analyse, wondering what we could have done better.

"Lord grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can, and
the wisdom to know the difference."

Midas touch · 15-12-2010, 03:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Y45

what should i reply back to her? i want to sound uneffected by her cancelling. i was thinking...

[HER]
"Dont call ha, hows work? i dont know if i can come on Saturday now so may have to be after christmas! x"

[ME]
"Cool no worries just let me know, have a nice christmas.."

what du think?

I like that!

En1gma · 11:32 PM

Fox - Im just going on what has worked for me bud. I'm not saying its the law...Just 90% of the time when a girl has suggested a day and time to me it's usually been changed by her...So I just wipe the problem from the equation. Plus, it make's me feel more in control of the date. Also it comes across to her that I'm a busy person who doesn't sit on my ass all day. A guy that's sociable and active...A subtle DHV.

Y45 - What you've said is fine. You can't do anymore. If you do try then you will come across as needy which am sure your aware of. I personally would say something along the lines of "No worries, another time...I've got a busy couple of weeks coming up so I'll hit you up at some point and then I can make fun of your 5 year old voice in person. :P Merry Xmas"

You done good though mate. If she ends up as a loose end then it's all a learning curve. The more you practice the easier it becomes. The easier it becomes the more of a challange you want!

Midas touch · 16-12-2010, 02:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Fox

edit// just read back through the thread.

under the circumstances that was good minus the 'just let me know bit'.

id be like:
'gutting, il see you another time. x'

shows that you actually care that she cancelled and isnt like but is still not needy.

definitely tho, I wouldnt suggest another meeting time straight away.

Interesting Fox, I get you. Show that you DO care and are disappointed, but not to the point of neediness or irritation. Something like, "That's a shame, I was looking forward to it, but not to worry, I'm sure we will meet again soon."

Zed · 16-12-2010, 10:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Fox

'gutting, il see you another time. x'

I like this!

I've always said what Y45 has txt in the past, (pretty much to the letter, conincidentally!).

I'll have to give your suggestion a try sometime

Y45 · 16-12-2010, 10:13 AM

Thanks guys! You've all been really helpful!

would be nice too meet you guys and go for a sarge if your in London. PM me your contact details if your interested...

Y45