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Default Severe Social Anxiety Help - 23-02-2021, 10:16 PM

Hey hope everyone's growing out there, that's what I'm trying to do. Up till 25 I never had a girl. I finally got the balls to make one approach and it went terrible was completely ignored. I've been with 1 girl since then, but had to create distance since it was kind of a toxic relationship. I've had insane social anxiety all my upbringing and adult life, when dealing with strangers and even my own family. I was the kid that didn't say a word in school, suicidally depressed, blah blah, just dark stuff. Now I'm breaking out of that more as an adult but it still haunts me, girls who I meet from social circle seem to like me, but my problem is just approaching girls in general and having options. Literally every time I go out I can't bring myself to show my sexual intent towards girls on the street. Right now I'm just being easy on myself, and going out and just saying hello and waving to random people on the street, that alone puts my body in panic mode. It might sound fucking ridiculous to some of you but for me that alone is a quantum leap. I'm planning on progressing to giving people compliments as I walk by, then trying to high 5 random people, then stop people and tell them random stories, then start approaching some girls I'm attracted to and just have a boring conversation and ask for a number. What's your guys advice for someone with severe social anxiety, maybe some ways you have progressed. Have any of you had a similar severe social anxiety and what did you do to overcome it?

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Default 24-02-2021, 09:13 AM

Welcome,

Given this' your first post, I'll respond more if you respond here.

For now, a long term fix - counselling/psychotherapy.

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Default 24-02-2021, 11:15 AM

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Given this' your first post, I'll respond more if you respond here.
lol what a nobhead.


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Default 24-02-2021, 01:44 PM

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Welcome,

Given this' your first post, I'll respond more if you respond here.

For now, a long term fix - counselling/psychotherapy.

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Thanks for response
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Default 24-02-2021, 01:48 PM

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lol what a nobhead.


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Default 28-02-2021, 11:14 AM

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What's your guys advice for someone with severe social anxiety, maybe some ways you have progressed. Have any of you had a similar severe social anxiety and what did you do to overcome it?
Personally I think the mistake people make is to try and go from zero to hundred. If you're painfully shy then don't set yourself a goal of day gaming 5 girls a day minimum; focus on the baby steps and sustainable, build from there.

Your approach of increasing interactions with people generally is a good first step. Male and female. If you get to the point where you can interact well socially with a girl, yes you'll have to cross that barrier of putting yourself on the line by showing sexual/romantic intent, but maybe see that as stage 2. Good luck bro
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Default 23-06-2021, 06:32 PM

Check out some Jordan Peterson videos on Social Anxiety.


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Default 24-06-2021, 10:19 AM

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Check out some Jordan Peterson videos on Social Anxiety.
Hi,

I'm curious - why specifically Jordan Peterson?

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Default 24-06-2021, 05:28 PM

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Hi,

I'm curious - why specifically Jordan Peterson?

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There are plenty of others that will give good advice, however he would be my recommended choice. You obviously have some thoughts on why I would recommend him, maybe a prejudice, feel free to share.


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Default 29-06-2021, 09:36 PM

Agree with Jiggydog.

I would recommend you to not 'game' until you have started becoming comfortable about talking to anyone - men and women.

1. Start with people you have some level of comfort, like your friends and their friends.
2. Read some books on how to interact with people and on conversational skills. Dale Carnegie's How to win friends and influence people will be good starting point.
3. Then go beyond your friends circle and start interacting with strangers.

My two pence.
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