So I'm messaging this girl and we're getting really close and sexual video calling, but she was dating an another guy before we met and now says she's dating him so blocked me.

She then unblocked me after I asked her to, and has now blocked me again, "for the health of her relationship".

I don't know the guy she's dating but I strongly suspect he's a half wit and just fucking with her based on his facebook photos.

I think he'll be out of the picture before too long and I think she'd go for me.
How do I get her to unblock me?

This is the text I'm thinking of sending her,
"Sarah it's clear that your relationship with Dan is your priority and I respect that.

For whatever reason, you feel Dan is a better man for you than me.

However, blocking me from your life is not going to help you have a healthy relationship.

All you had to do is tell me your decision and I would have respected that and kept my distance.

You have no need to block me for ever and you don't need to lose my friendship."

Would this have a chance of working or is there anything I can do to improve my chances of a positive response?

Sorry dude. Me and Sarah just couldn't withhold our feelings for eachother.

We wish you all the best.

I would never have called you a dimwit brother.

What's going on in the girls mind here? I know we have chemistry and we have video called frequently and kept each other company over lockdown.

This other guy she had been seeing before we met, but he's been fucking her about.

How long should I wait before I text her?

I think there's 2 or 3 main problems here.

Firstly, if she was already dating the other guy, you're currently second best, at best. When a girl has had sexual relations with a man and is on/off with him, usually other guys are just a distraction and sometimes even a tool they use to make her main guy jealous so that he'll want her more.

Another problem is that if you were dating or interacting with other girls you're interested in, you wouldn't give so much of a shit about this one. She's not the only girl in the world. You win some you lose some. Next.

The message is needy - "for whatever reason you feel Dan is the better man for you than me"

Translation - I can't believe you would do this to me, woman. How could you?

That's what she reads, and that, in essence, pushes her further away.

I wouldn't pursue it. I can't really see you doing anything that will change circumstances other than make it a bit worse, and effectively make yourself FEEL worse. Sometimes you just go silent and then perhaps you might get a call from her after a while, you might not.

Can you message people who've blocked you? That seems pretty fucked up, FB should fix that.


Peace,
kowalski

Good observation, actually. When someone blocks you on Facebook, you can no longer send them messages through it, nor on messenger. I know this for sure because there's this unpredictable kinky chick I've been banging for 2 years who has me blocked permanently, but then she'll randomly unblock and call or message me at 2am on a random night looking to fuck. I like that, I'm not saying it's a problem.

This kid must be messaging her through other means. What I figure is, he wants to be unblocked so that he can see what she's getting up to. I mean, what's the purpose of making someone unblock you, who has literally blocked you. That makes no sense and looks desperate.

Oh and another thing, con, how do you mean blocking you from her life isn't going to help her have a healthy relationship? Why, because you say so? It is in fact a very important factor in helping her have a healthy relationship. How's she supposed to get on with her relationship when she's got someone else (in this case, you) hovering around trying to change her mind.

You've lost this one mate. I hope to god you didn't send that message as it's beta as fuck.

Your ONLY way to have any chance is to sign off with "Ok, no problem. Bye!" then never contact her ever again. If you had any chance she will be in touch in the future, if not, no worries.

Solid advice given here, an not a single thank you! You're invested way too much...

'I know we have chemistry and we have video called frequently and kept each other company over lockdown'

She used you when she was bord mate. Put her behind you and let her see you flourish life the flower you are, without her when she's been screwed over by this "dimwhit"

As the saying goes the quickest way to get someones attention, is to remove your own.

She maybe drawn to this other guy because as you call it a Dimwhit or badboy which excites her, your being Mr nice Guy, and she no like.

Hello mate , don’t ever send a girl a text like this , it conveys to her that you’re needy , that you’re a good doggy that is willing to wait for her forever, that you dont have options which make her lose interest , dont text her .
Im guessing she was video calling you just for fun while the other guy is busy .Girls may block you and go to other guy(s) and see if it would work, if it doesn’t they’ll comeback to you hence thats why she unblocked you , and she will keep you around with some IOI’s (indicators of interest) but she’d never sleep with you , when het perfect man comes (alpha who doesnt waste his time on videocalling she’ll leave you hence thats why she blocked you again.
Best thing to do in this situation is to walk away .

Peace