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VibeSpreader 24-03-2020 01:40 AM

How Corona will affect Cold Approach
 
As everyone knows, cold approach has a bad rep for many reasons, partly because of socially inept people using it as a 'self development' tool. The media found it easy to paint the narrative of PUA's as manipulative psychos without morals. That's a massive topic in itself, but forget that.

For the people here that are actually successful at meeting women outside their social circle/online dating, I make a prediction.

For men, after x time of isolation, the already 'low level' gamers/normal guys are even worse at being non-needy, self amused etc. People that didn't do much cold approach will do less. The prolonged time without getting laid will lead people to fall into LTRs faster than they would have.

Women, in general, after being so used to extra hours on their phones, isolated and not meeting new people, that when they do get approached... the initial awkwardness of being approached for the first time in x weeks will be significantly higher. However when it's done well, women will be even more happy to meet someone who puts them at ease and doesn't immediately stink of desperation, reacting to them too much, or have a gopro pinned to their chest ;)

The rich get richer (unless you had all your money in stocks!) and the poor get poorer (unless you've got a serious personal drive to improve yourself and have certain resources)

Thoughts? Just a late night ramble.

Stein 24-03-2020 09:00 AM

To a degree yeah, but things should balance out afterwards after not too long. As with all things game, making predictive reads on situations you don't yet know can be risky. I could see new people coming to conclusions that game is somehow different after quarantine, then overcompensating and making their game worse as a result. Game is fundamentally game, so always best to read in real-time.

Similarly, a risk for new people are more probably going down information rabbit holes, watching a bunch of PUA material that may not work, at least the way they think it should, and letting it sink in too much without testing. Stay off youtube people.

There are ways you could work this to your advantage if you're creative. Not all game is cold approach, and if you know what you're doing you can actually leverage social circles and social media to make things way easier for you. Something I've been meaning to write about for a while. A time like this would be a good time to put ground work in on something like that.

kowalski 24-03-2020 01:00 PM

A lot of this is about expressing yourself comfortably. So, whatever you are about to go through should only really change that in as much as you actually change so how you express would obviously change along with that or a change in your comfort to express.

The moment matters too and you can imagine what it might be like to be in moment x but you really have to wait to be in it and feel it to respond to it, not least because it’s so volatile.


Peace,

kowalski

dan300 25-03-2020 04:45 PM

I think after all this, everyone's gunna be extremely happy and high on life through having been given back their freedom and everything they'd previously been taking for granted.

If this happens during the upcoming summer, when weather is relatively nice, and we have been given the all-clear to safely talk to each other again without restriction, I believe a lot of girls will be more approachable than ever.

Let's say we're locked up, so to speak, for 2 months, well after that, the new found appreciation for life that I believe most of us will have gained, will open us ALL up a lot more to genuine human interaction in general, not just us approaching girls.

VibeSpreader 26-03-2020 12:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Stein (Post 127216)
To a degree yeah, but things should balance out afterwards after not too long. As with all things game, making predictive reads on situations you don't yet know can be risky. I could see new people coming to conclusions that game is somehow different after quarantine, then overcompensating and making their game worse as a result. Game is fundamentally game, so always best to read in real-time.

Similarly, a risk for new people are more probably going down information rabbit holes, watching a bunch of PUA material that may not work, at least the way they think it should, and letting it sink in too much without testing. Stay off youtube people.

There are ways you could work this to your advantage if you're creative. Not all game is cold approach, and if you know what you're doing you can actually leverage social circles and social media to make things way easier for you. Something I've been meaning to write about for a while. A time like this would be a good time to put ground work in on something like that.

Agree with all of that. Cold approach should 100% be an bonus part to your social game, anyone that just cold approaches but is Billy No Mates is either going to just be rubbish/creepy. I've been finding over the last few days while I'm busy working on my business, a lot of chicks I havn't banged in a while or potential leads that went cold are hitting me up just to chat because they're bord/lonely, I'm also talking to my male friends and family more by voicenote which is fun, how about you?

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Originally Posted by kowalski (Post 127218)
A lot of this is about expressing yourself comfortably. So, whatever you are about to go through should only really change that in as much as you actually change so how you express would obviously change along with that or a change in your comfort to express.

The moment matters too and you can imagine what it might be like to be in moment x but you really have to wait to be in it and feel it to respond to it, not least because it’s so volatile.


Peace,

kowalski

Dope.

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I think after all this, everyone's gunna be extremely happy and high on life through having been given back their freedom and everything they'd previously been taking for granted.

If this happens during the upcoming summer, when weather is relatively nice, and we have been given the all-clear to safely talk to each other again without restriction, I believe a lot of girls will be more approachable than ever.

Let's say we're locked up, so to speak, for 2 months, well after that, the new found appreciation for life that I believe most of us will have gained, will open us ALL up a lot more to genuine human interaction in general, not just us approaching girls.
Ah man I do hope so, for 5 million self employed people, Thursday will be a big day to hear what the government say about how they're going to help. Money worries do affect the level of people's life appreciation and a recession at the least is more than probable. Personally, while I date a lot I don't spend much money on them, which seems to be a consistant complaint amongst most guys. Pesky social conditioning on dinner dates early on pahah.

dan300 26-03-2020 10:14 PM

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Originally Posted by VibeSpreader (Post 127228)
Ah man I do hope so, for 5 million self employed people, Thursday will be a big day to hear what the government say about how they're going to help. Money worries do affect the level of people's life appreciation and a recession at the least is more than probable. Personally, while I date a lot I don't spend much money on them, which seems to be a consistant complaint amongst most guys. Pesky social conditioning on dinner dates early on pahah.

I'm sensing that you're in the self-employed category?

If so, tonight's UK press conference should have gave you some reassurance.

VibeSpreader 28-03-2020 02:16 AM

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Originally Posted by dan300 (Post 127235)
I'm sensing that you're in the self-employed category?

If so, tonight's UK press conference should have gave you some reassurance.

I spent 1.5 years in NYC in 2017, so thats not great for me because they average your last 3 years taxes. Oh well.
Side point, me and a buddy had infield cameras to set up a 'simple-pickup' style youtube videos. I'm thinking it's not the right vibe to do them now, he's saying don't be a pussy.

'Hi, your facemask is super cute, so I had to talk to you from 2m away. I'm Vibespreader, I'm great at social distancing and hand satanising.'


Infallible right, any other openers people wanna add?

dan300 28-03-2020 09:26 AM

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Originally Posted by VibeSpreader (Post 127244)
Side point, me and a buddy had infield cameras to set up a 'simple-pickup' style youtube videos. I'm thinking it's not the right vibe to do them now, he's saying don't be a pussy.

'Hi, your facemask is super cute, so I had to talk to you from 2m away. I'm Vibespreader, I'm great at social distancing and hand satanising.'

Yea, I don't think it's a good time for that. Could literally not have picked a worse time, actually. People are on edge and worried, and you're going to invade their personal space? Even keeping distance, you're still invading their mental space and adding to already heightened anxiety levels.
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Originally Posted by VibeSpreader (Post 127244)

..any other openers people wanna add?

I've secured a bunch of dates/interest from online with "If COVID-19 doesn't take you out... can I?"

Only 1 girl took it the wrong way. I sent it to a mixture of girls I've kissed, and some I haven't yet met. Some of these were girls I'd been planning to meet up with, but the communication fizzled out, and I 've been able to rekindle things. I don't think I sent it to anyone I've already had sex with. Most found it very funny and when followed up with some jokey reference along the lines of, if the world doesn't end we should be grateful for the opportunity, most girls who responded are keen.

kowalski 28-03-2020 10:10 AM

Communicating with girls during confinement is 98% gay.


Peace,

kowalski

dan300 28-03-2020 10:15 AM

I just thought that line was genuinely too good to waste.

In these apocalyptic times, a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do, man.


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