Some advice needed

[Gurj1993]

Having difficulty having my way.

Before lockdown I'd started dating again after a relationship and went on quite a few. However one in particular went very well but I didn't try sleep with her (a mistake but never been confident going for it on a first date). It went so well we agreed that night to go on another (I should have made her wait). We went on that but again unable to sleep with her as it was raining and I'd picked her up beforehand and dropped her off at a city centre where there was no parking.

Then lockdown hit and I've tried not to seem needy but wanted to keep things going. We've had phone calls etc but nothing too pushy. It seems apparent she is struggling through a break up and seems to flip flap a lot about me.

My question is how should I proceed with this if I can? I know I've made a fair few mistakes with this one and she isn't my only option but she is my favourite and would like her to open up a bit more and stop being up and down. Ideally I think if I slept with her that would change things but struggling to get her to meet me even though every date we've had has gone very well with plenty of chemistry.

Thank you

[Zylind]

Sleeping with her in a first date is a mistake in my eyes , it causes buyer’s remorse which leads to her losing interest not because she wants to but because she felt a like a slut having sex with you on a first date (especially when she doesn’t know you that well ) , before having sex with a woman you want to keep and make her a GF,wife or lover ask yourself do i want one night of petting or countless nights of good sex. One way to prevent buyer’s remorse is to be a man and refuse to have sex with her on a first date , a man who can control his sexual feelings is a powerful man.
Back to texting make sure your texting is to minimum you cant game over the phone , you can only game infield , a small tip from a homie , in this rough time we all facing , make sure you work on yourself , read books about dating, being your best self etc.
Don’t focus on texting.

Peace

[Jeepster]

I think your being a pussy around this girl, your going to be knocking on tbe friend zone door if you carry on the way you are.

Man up! Tell her your not interested in a phone relationship, you want more than that, you want to go out on dates. You've got to tell her, women can smell weakness a mile off. Tell her you will call her to arrange meeting up, call not text. If she acts flakey and not give you a definite answer chances are you have blown it with your weakness, or she has no intention of taking it further. Then move on, dont waste your time, chances are she will contact you when she realises she hasn't heard from you. Some will initiate contact to test to see if you are just threatening them and cave in, your fucked then if you do. Stay strong and tell her, your only interested in a dating relationship and if you cant give me that then there is nothing more to say, and let her know you have other options.