Social Circle game problem

[Maximym9111]

Hey Guys

Being away at college has been great for my game, because every time you go out its new girls and no consequences. You can go for broke which is the only way to really learn,,,See how far you can push the escalation etc.

Problem is, now I am back home and the options in terms of game are really very limited.

There is a girl who I tried it on with in a RAFC way before I left, asking her to things etc, and she always said she'd love to but was busy etc. Then yesterday I saw her in the club, and she kept looking at me, then she made a point of coming and dancing with me like 3 times.

I may be wrong, and it could be me making an excuse, but she is a very well raised classy girl, and I would have problems escalating with her on the dancefloor. So I decided to go for the day 2. Saw her outside and arranged to do something, for the following week (I am not around this week( very eager and lots of kino. bit of hand brushing etc.

The guy I got in a taxi with (and he knows her a little) was like mate that chick was all over you. I'm pleased cos I like(d) her. Called her today but no answer so text just saying tried to call hope you're good. She replied Hello! Sorry was at work. Was nice to see you last night! xxx"

I text her a little whilst I was away and got basically no reply. When I was back I called her and I said that now I was back we should definately hang out, and she replied well I'll probably see you around in the club, then said she was getting ready to go out and was in a rush.

So i assumed it was game over. Then bizarrely, I was out again talking to this guy at the bar with my back to the rest of the club. Suddenly i feel these arms around me (I should point out that I am in a wheelchair) and it is this girl. Her grabbing me caused me to spill my drink on my lap a little, and she starting dabbing at my leg. Then she pulled up a chair and sat beside me and we chatted for like 10 mins with a bit of flirting and teasing. She introduced me to her friend. I told the friend that I liked this girl (might not be strictly Game, but this girl seemed really cool and to be honest I wouldn't have cared if she knew) and she said: "I clocked it in two seconds, you're always flirting with her."

I would have put my balls on the table to the girl I liked, but she siad she was going whilst I was talking to her friend, so I just hugged them both and left.

What I don't get, is if she wanted to freeze me out by not replying to my texts and being unreceptive on the phone, then why walk across the room and interrupt me with a huge hug, when I hadn't even noticed her?

So now I don't know where I stand. I've decided not to call her but wait until I see her out. Would really like a Day 2 with this girl before I leave in like three weeks. I may just go up to her and be like: "i like you, I think there is chemistry and I think we should explore it."

Thoughts and ideas? I have problems gaming girls I knew before game, if that makes sense.

Many thanks for any help

[aofelix]

You are thinking about this girl too much. She knows you care a lot about her and shes not really putting any substantial effort into anything with you. It sounds to me like you've chased her quite a bit and shes not really biting. Back off, stop thinking inside your head and look towards other girls.

There are lots of reasons she said hello to you at the bar ranging from shes madly in love with you (unlikely) to she is just a sociable person and when she sees someone she knows, shes friendly/flirty (likely). Don't overanalyse tiny things like that. Also you have to understand at night, girls simply act differently whether its due to alcohol, wanting to let loose or peer pressure.

p.s. your key problem is you're making lots of assumptions: "shes a classy girl"... that classy girl will be getting nailed by some bartender in an alley one night, not so classy now is she? yet you're still jumping through hoops for her...

[En1gma]

Girls love attention. You seem to be given her ALOT of it. I agree with aofelix. You should back off from the girl. Don't show her the attention you give her when you are talking etc to her.

[Maximym9111]

I'll test the waters next time I see her I mean this is the thing, I don't think she is an attention seeker on purpose, and i feel like I should make one last play at some point. Just because I always regret the things I haven't done. I haven't seen or spoken to her in like two weeks, so we'll see. I almost think she is the kind of girl who never realised quite how hot they were, and so maybe she wouldn't get it unless I went very direct.

[navvo1]

I agree, your doing too much chasing, when texting I think it's 1 for 1. don't text her twice because she hasn't replied, she may generally be busy, or playing hard to get, don't fall into this deadly trap, just do it back. Freeze her out, make her chase, and she'll be all over you. if not don't worry, move on, and who knows, you may just bump into her again !
Good luck

Jasper x

[Leo-Jed]

The biggest thing is not to get hung up on one girl. In fact you can use this girl as a pawn or as we say in the game "social proofing". If other girls see you talking to you and your friends they will see you as a male who has been "pre-selected". All the usual PUA jargon but it works.

But If you really are hung up on this girl and you'd like to give it a go you have to recognise you are in the "friendship zone". Cut yourself off from her for a while so the next time you see here the relationship has changed a little through time. If comes up and flings her arms around you you have to make a comment like "hey hands off!..girls have to EARN hugs from me!" (playfuly of course). Do not jump through these hoops for women!

You will then need to throw a few playful negs at her and get her to DHV you. All the time she is having an interesting conversation with you you need to act like you're about to go by saying "I better get back to my friends but"

And lastly if she asks you to text / call her say "I'm a little busy all this week I can call you on saturday evening if you like? If she ignores the call leave a message saying "hey you asked me to call you but I guess you're out and about" I'm not going to be around for the rest of the day so maybe I'll catch up with you another time" If she listens to the message and wants to talk to you, don's worry, she'll soon call straight back.

Lastly ALWAYS END THE CALL FIRST!!!!!!!! preferably when the conversation is good. Your excuse should be.. I'm meeting one of my friends for lunch/dinner.. "SHE's having a few probs with her boyfriend and wants a good night out to cheer her up"

See how it goes fella. But as I said at the start. I would move on to pastures new, she'll soon get jealous if she sees you with a few other girls.