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19-08-2010, 12:35 AM
I am a selfish cunt... i dont beleive in love, its just chemical
i got a GF 8 month ago... was meetin her long before... AMAZIN GIRL i had alot of shit goin on in my life and she pretty much wound up all i had... this in turn meant we ended... so i been gettin myself back together and myself to me and realisin FALLIN IN LOVE TURNS U INTO A SPINELESS PRICK. i like that it happened coz its a reminder to always treat them with a little distance NO MATTER WHAT... and if they get distant BE MORE SO but jesus only over the past 3 days have i been able to smile at how much i love my disregard to other peoples opinion of me MY EGO IS ON THE UP, MY INSECURITIES ON THE WAY DOWN .. and the typical thing is... my ex is soon gonna want me back when im myself... SO WAT DO I DO, TELL HER TO GO FUCK HERSELF, OR WAS IT MY FAULT FOR BECOMIN A SPINELESS PRICK IN THE FIRST PLACE. I did have alot of shit, i am only human, but should u really rely on people to be there for u, or is it ur job to keep in check. I believe the latter... Hmmm a though tho... if someone isnt there for u when ur down... should u judge them... or should u accept its not really anyones duty other than ur own. MAYBE WE SHOULD ACCEPT NEEDY IS NEVER ATTRACTIVE     
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19-08-2010, 01:07 AM
its not really about approach.. thats easy... its about how your inner game gets disrupted by emotion... and how u think changing yourself can change an outcome... but it cant... the fact is... u shouldnt... not for anyone
Its never a bad experience... just an experience... as long as you learn from it
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19-08-2010, 05:31 AM
I hear ya man, took me months to get over my bad case of "oneitus" I still think about her but now my ego is up and im feeling great, and its all thanks to the game
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19-08-2010, 10:12 AM
Agreed. The ego is a foundationless structure to build your life on... what am I like, all the architectural metaphors I'm coming out with today
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19-08-2010, 10:21 AM
First things first. You should never have to CHANGE who you are in order to have a relationship with a girl. Everyone has unique qualities about themselves and if they do find a girl/guy they want to share there life with then this other person should want to be with them for these qualities...
They should compliment your faults and vice versa. Everyone has them. Doesn't mean they are bad. Just shows you are human. If you find someone trying to change who you are, or not liking the person you are then thats there problem and they either need to sort themselves out or move along I say. When i were a young niave lad i was obsessed with this one chick. She took advantage off me like she did her 7" vibrating friend. Always taking and never giving. I would of done anything for the girl, my feelings or should i say obsessions clouded all my qualities and i became a person she wanted me to be. All in all it turned out really bad. I got hurt big time...But, i sucked it up, vowed i would never be treated or should i say trained like that and have been a pretty cold fuck ever since. I guess im still trying to find the TRUE me. Once I do that, then am golden.
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19-08-2010, 12:24 PM
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When you've got a lot of shit going on in our life, it tends to knock your confidence. You gotta remember you're awesome, but also make sure you take steps to sort out your shit, otherwise its gonna come and bite you in the ass and you'll forget you're awesome again. Don't judge people for not being there when you're down. Just remember who they are and remember not to rely on them. At the time they might not have been able to deal with your shit in addition to their own. Neediness is never attractive, IMO its the biggest turn off in the world.
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19-08-2010, 06:38 PM
Phil - i agree with some of what you say but defo not all of it!
love is a set of chemical reactions/imbalances/releases in the brain and nervous system. you can replace the word love in that last sentence with literally any feeling. shit you can replace it with the word 'thought', you can replace it with 'existence' if you want to go further. we all started with strands of DNA in the primordial soup. so just because love is chemical doesnt make it false. last girl i was in love with, i didn't let her get 100% of me because i'd been fucked around in the past, given it all and been walked over. problem was she gave me 100% and because i was witholding only made her love me more, she thought she could 'fix' me and then i would open my heart to her. didn't happen. and althought she loved me more and was more cut up about it, she's got someone else now and i'm happily single. why? my philosophy to come out of my experiences is that love is real, but only as real as you make it. as there are inevitably going to be two people with two subjective views of what their love means, and both people fool themselves that they're talking about one love when it's not one, it's two seperate loves, different amounts and strengths... so yeah my philosophy is (and wait its really fucking clever): LOVE IS COMPLICATED. as for me i can't really be arsed with complicated right now, so i'll stick to fuckbuddies and chasing hotties.
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