First off I'm glad I had the pickup community when I was trying to get better with women. I am sorry this isn't pickup but instead relationshipy.

Anyway currently I'm in a long term relationship 3 years and it's pretty serious. There was a time when it was perfect, we constantly had sex and she was more "into it". She'd text me dirty the lot. I was happy, she moved in over a year ago leaving behind her family, job, friends to my city which she hates. Currently I'm paying for her to live, we cannot claim any benifits from the government which is stupid, I want her to find work her but it doesn't seem she will. Another option is we move to her home town.

She has always wanted a child but her ex's were too abusive and glad she didn't. I was happy to give it a try as things are going pretty well and I'm nearly 30. Things just didn't go her way, it's been actually like 8-12 months now anyway and it hasn't happened, we are now considered infertile and it's distroying our relationship.

When we have sex it's only in "fertile" window other than that it doesn't seem to happen, she isn't in the mood as much, now my sperm count came back low which is fixable i hope, it'll just require drugs or surgery, I'm confident it will be okay. But now the problem is with me, we stopped trying and having sex and I feel aweful saying this but as a guy I need sex in a relationship to feel a connection? I feel a sexless relationship or one that lacks initamacy is doomed to failure. I feel bloody aweful the way things are right now, I don't plan on breaking up with her and I know she isn't interested in anyone else and she is completely in love with me. This has been mentally very stressful for her and me. I want to support her but I still want sex ideally.

I'm not the kind of guy who wants to cheat either.

Would any tactics work like jealously (talking to other women), stop giving her affection or sleeping in a separate room ?? She does get a half decent relationship, after all I'm paying for her to live her and I drive us places but for me the sexless thing makes me want to split but knowing what she is going through I feel bad.