Game Mentality vs Fluid Mentality
 

I just felt that i needed to get this out there as ive noticed quite afew guys are quite stuck in this 'Game mentality' .

I think a big reason for this is the language people use (it's all psychological)
In the 'Game' we have a vast vocabulary in relation to all that we do and i feel this can negatively impact alot of you guys (hell it even negatively impacts me sometimes)

Here's what im talking about ... 'Set Logistics' 'Kino Escalation' 'Approach Anxiety' 'Canned Material' 'Obstacles' 'Stalled Sets' 'Openers'

Alot of the language we use psychologically holds us back ! We're objectifying these 'states'

To talk about 'set logistics' would suggest to me that you feel there is a magic formulae that if we DONT identify correctly , we will fail

To talk about an 'obstacle' would suggest that this person is out to stop us from reaching our goal ! When 90 % of the time this is not the case

To talk about opening is to suggest that the women you are approaching are CLOSED ! when this is not the case .

And well , when we talk about approach anxiety , we're giving a big scary face to a simple , easily overcome problem !

Are we noticing a pattern here anyone ? Instead of thinking of this as a 'game' with logistics, moves and pitfalls . Think more 'fluid'

Don’t be talking to women thinking about the logistics of the situation , just be the situation and live in the moment .

Dont think about a friend as an obstacle that needs to be passed , think of her as another exciting person you get to meet and who adds to your life experience

Dont be thinking about Opening something that is closed , invite yourself through an already OPEN door !

And dont think about a 'BAD SET' think of an interaction that has run its natural course and is now over .

Please dont for one second think im saying dont touch a girl and build comfort and create sexual tnesion . Im not saying dont be nice and win over a girls friend to overcome any objections she may have . And im definately not saying dont think about how to make a 'set' love you . Just stop playing a game about meeting women ... and actually meet them .

Good Lookin Out Guys

Yeh,
I have been very logical, thinking too much of what to say - where I should just "be in the moment".

I'm realising this more now, so my interactions are lasting longer than they have been, simply because I'm enjoying them more. However, I'm still not closing - but I think its just a matter of time for me now .

"opening" has become more fluid for me now, to the point where I am starting to forget what I have opened with, which is cool. So now, if I can close as fluid as I can open - those bitches will be mine ;)

Have you been watching that DVD as well Swype ;-) Whooosh! lol

Thanks for that post kow, that's awesome. AA or AE however you want to put it, is definitely an area i need to work on. I just read that whole thing and it makes perfect sense. Hopefully taking this new perspective and practicing will help me overcome this, thanks.

Nick