Routine encyclopedia

[whacksmith]

Is there such a thing? I mean, like a list of all the decent field tested openers, negs and routines that the PUAs out there use regularly?

Its obviously better to not have to rely on canned material, but I had a lot of success with using it, so therefore I want more.

[nova]

Originally Posted by whacksmith

Its obviously better to not have to rely on canned material, but I had a lot of success with using it, so therefore I want more.

When you say 'success' do you mean you managed to have a conversation and a given girl engaged in this conversation?

[whacksmith]

As in, the material actually engaged the girl I was talking to. She was interested in what I was saying.

[Summer Junky]

Originally Posted by whacksmith

She was interested in what I was saying.

Think about why she was interested in what you were saying. Was it really because of the lame ass routine you were doing, or was it because you felt confident in what you were saying and half expected her to be interested. I think you will find that it's the latter.

After you've run a few routines and you've warmed up to the idea of approaching slightly, the healthy direction to start taking is to start trying to have normal conversations with people, rather than using pre scripted lines in order to seek out good reactions in them. What you're communicating to people when you start running these elaborate routines is that you feel like you have to earn the approval of them first in order to be able to engage in conversation with them, which just comes across as needy and a bit over the top. Sure at the time it's pretty cool, especially if you've got it down fairly good, but after the routines finished, what then? You try to slip into a normal conversation anyway, and the other person isx just thinking, "wow, he had to do all that just so he could introduce himself, that guy must have some kind of social issues", which is true. That's why we all ended up here, is it not?

Anyway, my point is, if you really wanna jump on the path of self improvement, you need to start putting your balls on the line more often. And sure you'll get blown out many many times, but you'll learn a great deal more about yourself and other people than you would with someone else's conversational content.

[nova]

Originally Posted by Summer Junky

Anyway, my point is, if you really wanna jump on the path of self improvement, you need to start putting your balls on the line more often. And sure you'll get blown out many many times, but you'll learn a great deal more about yourself and other people than you would with someone else's conversational content.

Nicely put.