Over 30 and never had girlfriend or sex - I need some advise
 

Dear all,

As you can see in the topic I'm 30 years old and never had a girlfriend or sex. I moved last year to a new city and I don't have many friends here. I have a successful job. Also in the past I don't have success with women. It's a bit complicated because I'm not so shy. I have often a date but I know this women's from Facebook etc. The most time it's the same I dated her one time and than she don't have time etc. Also sometimes I have date with women's date I know from daily life, there is it the same. I don't know how I can change it,maybe somebody can give me a advise. I friend from my hometown means, I must be more open and tell the women's what I want. I'm a normal guy, 168 cm tall, sporty figure and good clothing style. I think the most people think that I'm from Italy, because a lot of work colleges ask me, if I'm from Italy. (Brown eyes, dark brown hairs, good teeth and a very good style. Also I think it's not that way, that I'm just looking for models or something like that. I would say maybe 4/10 Hb. What you think is the problem, that I have often date but nothing more.
Cheers Paul

So, where are you from?


Peace,

kowalski

I'm from Germany

Cheers Paul

And you live in Germany or somewhere else?


Peace,

kowalski

Yes, but I had in the past a lot of dates with women's from different countries. So I prefer this English page

I'm going to assume that your primary goal here is just to have sex, not necessarily to get in a relationship or anything like that.

You mention you get dates via facebook. If you had to explain how A --> B --> C you would get laid doing this, what would it look like in your opinion?

Was asking because often being foreign, depending on the nations you are from and in, can either be an advantage or a disadvantage. If you are in your own country and are of that nation's standard ethnicity, then it's not a factor.

Was it very clear, to both parties, that these dates you have gone on were dates?
Have you been kissing these girls on your dates?


Peace,

kowalski

Hello,

I think for the online dates it was clear that this meetings are dates. But I only kissed one girl. With the offline dates maybe sometimes it was not so clear, because I meet for example one girl from work and I think it was not a real date. The date is very often the same, we talk, laughing etc. Also very often the women make plans for a new date or say, yes we must meet again etc. but normally after yhe first date the don't contact me again. Maybe you can tell me how I can make it for her clear that it's a date, How I can show real interest and what could I change (my behaviour) on this date(s) because as I said, normally it's always the same.

Stein asked a great question that you should also answer.


Peace,

kowalski

Maybe I understood the question wrong, because I think I answer already. But if you mean how I do it, it's very simple. I just wrote her a message on Facebook about a topic that I saw on her profile than I had a small conversation on FB with her and ask her for a real date. In real life, work for example. I also talk with the women a bit and ask her than for going out and her number.