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Problem in relationship
So I'm with my GF for around year exclusive now. First few months were great, great sex everywhere, anytime etc. Right now we already had 2 arguments, because she started to not like this and that. For example, she don't like it in the morning anymore when she start doing sth. Or she likes to start only in one position because otherwise she feel pain as my dick is too big. Or she will tell me before sex that she wants slow sex this time. Or she's not gonna have sex now until she will wash herself. Like she is all the time making sex so predictable. Before I slowly, romanticly fucked her in bedroom, and next day I ripped her pants of in the kitchen and destroyed her pussy. I just don't get it why she changed so much about sex and I can't be dictating terms and being dominant. She only says she's not dominant because I'm telling her what position now, or I'll tell her suck my dick or stuff. But I don't have this unpredictable sex anymore, It's like she will plan everything now before, and it's boring. Yesterday we had conversation about it and of course argument, which I ended because she started to raise her voice etc so I've said we will talk when she will calm down. I really feel bad about it, I told her about everything and If our sex will be predictable this won't work, because boring and predictable sex leads to bad things in relationship. But she seems not to get it, telling me ''I cannot even say what I like ?''. When in reality most of the stuff before sex she will plan, and I don't even enjoy it. Even she's gonna decide how long sex will last, because after she had 2 orgasms she cant take it anymore and I need to come because she's not handling it. Seriously Im very sexual person, I could be having all kinds of sex everywhere anytime, and that situation really frustrates me.
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There's no way back to happiness in this relationship.
Others might think differently. Whatever you are thinking or feeling now, it'll pass. Peace, kowalski |
Any arguments why do you think so ? Because you gave zero arguments behind it.
Apart from that matter, I am happy with her. We are having much laugh together, spending nice time, cooking together etc. Apart from that one thing I am really happy with her. So you actually think it wont work out because ? Because she wont change or what ? She does listen and usually try to do what I say I like, and she tries dont do sth I dont like. I see she cares, I have problem only with the fact that she made sex predictable and I don't like it, because im really spontaneous person. So I usually feel happy with her, that's why I don't get why you say :''There's no way back to happiness in this relationship.''. So I don't get why you so dramatic :D |
WTF? My argument is your post. Your post was the only information available.
If there's relevant factors not included in the story, that's on you. Meanwhile, I already said "Others might think differently". If you are "really happy with her" you wouldn't be here describing all the ways you are really unhappy with her. Peace, kowalski |
I just described one thing im unhappy about and few things that happy about. I ask you about your argument l, because if one thing is not ok does that mean its all over? You just said that your argument is my post... For me thats no answer but this is forum so everyone have right to their opinion. So thanks for the answer but it gave me nothing really.
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Yeah, but clearly English is your second language. So, if you don't understand the advice that's a fail mark on you.
Don't worry, others will be along soon to explain that I'm correct and that my advice is awesome. Peace, kowalski |
You know what, you just sound like douche to me right now. I tried to be nice, but obviously you had a bad day so you need to get it out on someone. Being sarcastic is not nice, when you have nothing constructive to say. And btw English is your second language aswell, so don't be cocky about that.
I just spoked to her and she said that I'm right and she will try to change. We will see. |
I'm not being sarcastic. Everything I've written is honest, awesome and straight from the heart.
Also, English is not my second language. Spanish is my second language. Your dumbass making incorrect assumptions. That's gonna be causing a lot of the problems in your life. Peace, kowalski |
Dumbass ? That's gonna be causing a lot of problems in your life. I bet your ass got kicked many times already for being douche.
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Ok, virgin Actually, that never happened. I can escalate and de-escalate without pausing to take breath. It's all the same. And, yes... your dumbass just keeps on making incorrect assumptions. But, there's no way that me thinking you are a dumbass is causing any problems in my life. Thanks for the parody though. Imitation is the greatest compliment and all that.
But, you know, don't back up on the English being my second language thing. Right? There's no need to acknowledge that whatsoever. Jajajajajaja. That was a one punch knockout and here you are after the fight has been stopped... for your own safety... dazed and confused. And you just move on and attack me for something else. What a fucking loser you are. Peace, kowalski |
And there you go, insulting again. You are biggest parody in here. You call yourself PUA ? PUA don't need to insult people to feel better. You have no manners at all, you gave 0 constructive criticism to what I wrote, then you keept on insulting me. At least I won't be bothered about your opinion because it's worth nothing. I bet this forum is dying because of people like you.
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I don't call myself a pua.
There's nothing about being a pua that negates insulting people. I have manners. I gave lots of constructive criticism. I didn't insult you even once, you took offense. That's on you, faggit. My opinion is very valuable. Ignore it at your peril. This forum is dying because all forums are dying and pua is dead. Try again, or cry again... it all sounds the same to me. Peace, kowalski |
Your opinion is worthless, you have no manners.
Calling me dumbass and faggot is not insulting ? You're a joke. |
My opinion is valuable.
I have manners. You are a dumbass You are a faggit. You announced that you were insulted. I'm a comedian. You are my joke. Peace, kowalski |
I wouldn't normally go to such extreme effort as to quote TWO posts, but here we are.
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What's key is what's highlighted in bold, yet that still comes back to that one thing that bothers you, the mundane sex. All I can say is, I've been in those exact shoes earlier this year. And long story short I regretted the decision to finish with my girl over unfulfilling sex. There were other things I could have done such as simply talking to her about it rather than abruptly ending it then hurting a few months later. But I think you've already talked to your girl so that's a slight difference than my situation. Actually, that just makes me now realise kowalski might be right in his original post that there's no way back. Perhaps that's harsh and not wholly accurate, in that there's still a very small chance, but a small chance it is. |
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My 2 cents would be this. Your post was very negative towards your girlfriend and situation hence why there would be an assumption that you are not happy in your relationship. Personally I think you came here looking for self-validation (hence the big-dick/destroy pussy/orgasms comments) or for other forum users to advocate (read: give you "moral" permission) to look for sexual fulfillment outside of your relationship. If it were me, I'd follow one of 2 options but either way, you should work on your maturity as you seem to get your concept of a relationship from films and set your sexual standards on porn (looking at your posts): 1. Work on your maturity (a lot) and actually talk to your girlfriend rather than internet strangers and progress your relationship. Tell her you want a relationship but feel you need to work on your exuality with a mature conversation 2. If your unhappy as a whole with your relationship and not just the sex part, finish it and move on so you can both be happy Depsite his delivery kowalski is usually very concise with his advice. If your original question was genuine, you appear to be unhappy with your relationship |
Priorities
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What are your priorities? Do you prioritise an adventurous sex life above other important factors in a long term relationship? Because it would appear, from what little you have wrote, you do & your partner does not. If you and your partners priorities differ largely after the "honey moon period". I'm afraid you are left with very few options. You could thoughtfully negotiate a compromise in sexual preferences to suit the both of you. Alternatively, you could rearrange your own priorities (This works better if your emotionally mature). Or you could both break up and find more suitable partners. What you should never do is try to make her feel bad about what she wants now & try to manipulate her into doing everything you want. That would be a complete douche move & will no doubt end up in an unfair, unequal, controlling relationship. Or even worse, a messier break up further on down the line. |
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