Need some help with this girl who push/pulls me
 

Had 5 dates with this girl (24) from tinder. I do like her alot and was hoping if it continued to go well there would be potential for a relationship.

We did oral on the 2nd date and sex from 3rd date onwards. She certainly seemed to enjoy it and used to text me saying how it gives her butterflys and I'm very good at what I do. I think we seemed quite compatible in the bedroom.

We got on really well blah blah.

Here is the issue, she is very unreliable, without going into details was late on 2 of the dates and bailed on the final one which I will get to in a minute.

She has a daughter, so I can appreciate that it must be hard to make time for dating and be punctual etc so I never pushed it, but did give the impression I wasn't going to be walked over.

One time she said she might pop over to see me in the evening, so I just said let me know either way so I know weather to make other plans. She never did and I told her in the future I would appreciate if she let me know either way if she is coming over or not.

On our last date, we had arranged to meet up in the evening, hadn't heard anything all day, until it got to 7pm and she simply text "so apparently I'm now going to the cinema".

Having previously said she was seeing me that evening I had enough of being let down with her so I sent her a text saying along the lines of "Its not gonna work out all the best" she text back saying "she understands but she did really like me and all the best".

So I deleted her number and moved on.


A couple of days after that I got a text saying she got a reply from a health check she had been to (which is true she had gone whilst we were dating) and the results were not great and she needed to go for treatment (it's highly likely it's nothing serious but I can understand her worry, especially with her being a mum)

She said she didn't know who else to turn to and I sent a few replys along the lines of "keep positive I've fingers crossed for you, here if you need anything"

I wanted to be supportive without getting into that friendzone.

I would like to give her another go, but really unsure how to approach this situation

Just keep banging her if you like her, man... I don't really get the question here. Nor do I really understand why you cut her off and deleted her number. Shes not push/pulling you. Sounds like you are being petty and annoying and neurotic as fuck (which is not ok for a man).

You're gonna need to be a bit more adaptive than you have been with this girl to live a comfy adulthood in these fast changing times.


Peace,

kowalski