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Originally Posted by dan300 (Post 109941)

I've been seeing this 25 year old blonde for a couple of months.

Turned out she's shit at sex. She swallows and all, but when she went to go on top she has literally no clue what to do.

Do I teach her? Or move the fuck on to a girl who does know sex.

Danny

This is overly personal, needy approval seeking.

Translation - What you really mean.

I'm not really looking for advice. I just want respect and approval from you all to feel good about myself.

I thought this forum was about helping others, not looking for a self image/ego boost.

Real men don't seek approval.

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Originally Posted by kowalski (Post 110539)

I had to really think about this to remember.

When stopping seeing someone I rarely explain myself and am rarely asked to explain myself. Normally we've reached some impasse that one or both of us can't be arsed to work through / around, so everyone knows what is happening and why and I just text "stop" or "I'm / we're done here" and that's that.

The last girl who asked "why?", I replied "because you're the type of person who'd ask why" and sure enough she pestered me for over a year coming to my home and writing me letters.

One girl recently said "see you around" and I replied "no. You don't hang out where I hang out. If I see you around, it's because you are looking for me. Don't do that."i

She actually took it pretty well, wished me the best of luck and hopes I meet a nice girl "when I'm ready" .... I know at some point I'm going to regret finishing it, but I made my decision.

Would it be right to tell her/girls the real reasons for finishing though, for the purpose of serving them well in the future? There was this other short blonde a few months ago that was beautiful but for a couple of little hairs on her cheek that I didn't like. I'm into licking bitches faces when I'm fucking them so it was simply something I couldn't live with. But how the hell do you say such a thing to a girl? I finished with her too on untruthful means.

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Originally Posted by dan300 (Post 110543)

Would it be right to tell her/girls the real reasons for finishing though, for the purpose of serving them well in the future?

Does it benefit her? If yes then say it, otherwise I just move on

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Originally Posted by daleinthedark (Post 110563)

Does it benefit her? If yes then say it, otherwise I just move on

Even when it's something that will immediately hurt her? Like my recent girl, if I told her the real reason it would be something like "sorry babe but I need more fulfilling sex"

Shit, maybe I should've just said that to her.

Noooooooo, should have taught her. Skills can be taught as long as you have a good open minded base to work with ;)

Bit late now.

I miss her & could easily contact her & make up with her but I don't think that would be fair.

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Originally Posted by dan300 (Post 110804)

Bit late now.

I miss her & could easily contact her & make up with her but I don't think that would be fair.

The self indulgence and insecurity may make me vomit.

buy her a book, if she improves keep her, if not move on

Honesty is the best policy, so many relationships don't last because communication is gone.

If the sex is shit she has to know she needs to work on that and you're unsatisfied. If she's fat (and you're with her) she has to know she needs to lose weight if she wants to stay with you

Being honest about what you want and telling her she'll be honest with you. Then you can find out where she's at. Huge problem with relationships today is people just put up with each other and suffer in silence so they're doomed for failure, don't let that happen!!

Hope this helps :)

I agree with Paddington, also its a bit harsh to dump her for being a bad lover that's willing to improve, (by reading books, watching videos, researching talking to her gf's, talking to you etc) its not so harsh to dump her for being a bad lover that doesn't care, infact id say people that don't care deserve to be dumped.

Don't train her up tell her to improve give her a time frame to improve and if she doesn't fire her