Your advice please...
 

I have a predicament which I would like some advice with as I’m sure plenty of you will have come across this.

When I first read The Game and discovered the online community I started to use some canned material however I always found that women were so much more responsive once we were genuinely interacting, and it’s so much more rewarding when you don’t know where the conversation will go. I have a lot of areas to improve on but I feel like I am becoming quite good at building a connection with women through talking about my genuine passions in life and what inspires me.

Not many guys ask a girl what her ultimate dream is in life – from my limited experience they burst into a smile immediately and you are invoking all the feelings in them right at that moment that they feel about those dreams. The great thing about doing this is that it’s so real. There are no lines, I am genuinely interested, and you build a real connection. I also find that the LMR I used to experience is a lot less frequent when I have established this connection. Anyway I digress...

The problem that I am having is that despite always being up front with women that I am just having fun and I don’t want any relationships BEFORE we get up to anything, I am finding that some women I sleep with keep texting me asking to meet me up every day and I end up just making excuses each day.

Now I understand that women have to justify it to themselves the next day so they don’t feel like a slut but surely there’s a way of drawing a line under it without pissing them off.

My mates just say to ignore their texts but I feel like that’s a cowards way out. I guess I could just tell them straight up “I had fun, you’re a nice girl but like I said I’m just having fun and that was just for one night” Maybe my problem is that I like to wallow in that warm feeling of success for longer! Or maybe I don’t wanna lose the connection we built up despite not wanting to see them again. Any advice on what I should be doing?

Ace , our appoach to this subject may differ alittle but i think the answer is an obvious one , your just hoping there is an easy way out lol ! (if only there was)

Personally , i only hook up with women who i would want to see more than once , if you hook up and then feel that you wouldn't want to carry on a sexual/romantic relationship .... Turn them into friends man , you can never have enough female friends ! It skyrockets your value .

But in answer to your question , just tell them . It's horrible to like someone and be strung along as im sure we all know . Call them , chat for abit and make it clear that you only want to be friends . If they take that badly it's their problem not yours , if she has class and 'grace' im sure she'd be happy to be your mate .

It's the kind thing to do really , we're in this game to meet women and have fun , not to go around hurting them

Hope this helps

Props.

Indeed, make a friend.

All girls are anticipating and testing for your "Post Sex Attitude.” Any guilt you vibe invites her to assume the role of slut (otherwise why be guilty) and this will be used as leverage by her to try and escape it. Many (immature) girls will look entirely towards your post sex attitude to derive a meaning for the experience and how this then defines them as a person. By exorcising her slut ghosts you can create a meaning of, “a bit of fun with a mate of mine,” instead of, “that time I put out too soon.”

Respect is key.

Communicate this by acknowledging her ability to be healthy and actively fulfil her sexual desires. You see her as a mature, independently minded, modern woman who enjoys and embraces her need for sex and isn’t afraid to take what she wants.


PUA: “Yeah, it was great. Don’t get a big head if I tell you that I’m impressed.”

HB: “Really?”

PUA: “Yeah, some girls I’ve been with can be pretty insecure, especially with sex, wrapped up in opinions and shit. I don’t get that from you at all, you know what you want, none of this “I’m guilty for being a sexual being” crap. S’nice to meet a grown up in the sack.”

…And the like.

If you create this meaning for her to step into she will take it because A) it’s empowering and B) the alternative is to be an insecure slut.

It’s just business as usual for girls to meet you as a friend this way (no doubt it will be the more it happens). If she doesn't want to be friends it's still easier for her because she knows she is respected.

If, however, she tries to put you on a leash because now, “he owes me” (acting like she didn’t want the sex too) then she’s the one ruining a friendship by trying to "buy" a supplicant with pussy.

Bung.

Cheers guys there’s some really good advice there. On the back of this I’ve managed to turn a one (actually two) night stand into a friend for the first time ever I think.

Everyday is progress...