Getting a girl from afar

[cha]

Hey!

Met this girl a year or so ago, we met up a few times, and got on great, but then she went off to Europe for a few months and I got a gf.
We statyed in touch, and she joked that we should get married one day

Anyway, recently, seems she almost completely disinterested, is there much I can do?! Shes about 2hours from me

Thanks,
Cha

[nova]

As this is the same question carpet bombed across the forum I've pasted my response for you (what a gent I am).

First question, what do you want from this girl. Second, are you still with your girlfriend.

Personally I would be critical of anyone wanting to game someone who lives 2 hours from then, particularly when there are 1001 girls outside their front door.

[cha]

Thanks for reply, yes I realised should have posted in the other section, thought I'd deleted it!

Well she's really hot! And we got on really well, plus she's on my mid a lot!
I am starting to game other girls who are local too haha but see it as a challenge now
Yes broke up with the gf a couple of months back.

[nova]

No worries man. It's just you get the odd guy who does that just to force a response! Welcome the the forum man.

Anyway, as you may be aware from MM or any basic readings is not a health attitude, i.e. putting one girl on a pedestal. Sure she may be hot, but ask yourself, is she really that hot that you'd travel 2 hours for a date or worse to keep a relationship ticking over?

It's not worth working on a long term strategy of building attraction just because you got on and maybe you see her as a potential gf. In my experience this is unfortunately the opposite as the girl will have you boxed off as a friend and will be suprised when you suddenly change the way you treat her. You need to start considering making your intentions clear to any girl you meet early on, it's no good weeks or months down the line (once you have plucked up the courage or waited for her to make a move).

You are on the right lines starting to game other local girls tho, this is the route to take!

[cha]

Ok, yes I get you, I wont go into detail, but more happened when we met up than just a kiss lol
The reason we didnt carry on seeing each other is that she went out of the country for a few months

So really for now, just chill out from her!?

[nova]

Fair enough, and I think you were both right to not start a relationship at this stage. I'd keep it that way.

I have a flatmate who spends all his evenings and sunday afternoons on Skype to his girlfriend in Germany. Not good.

Worse still, I have an old coursemate who has declared on Facebook that he's in a relationship with a girl from Barbados who he met on a dating site and then proceded to go out there on holiday with her. Basically a £2000 date and possibly a couple of shags. Now he's restricted to a virtual relationship.

[cha]

Got ya, yes will leave it be for now I think!

Gotta learn to be cocky-funny again, I found that the biggest thing for girls, as they don't expect it!
Any gems you can give?
Where abouts are you from by the way?