Your number or hers?
 

Hey guys,

Havnt had a chance to have a go at some daygame yet, havnt been out really out the past few days as I am feeling a little under the weather.

I had a thought which im hoping someone can answer.

If you get to the point where she asks you for her number or you feel that asking for hers will result in her giving you her real number, would it be better to say 'Actually, I will give you mine so that you can get worked up about breaking the three day rule' or something lame along those lines, OR is it better to take hers and make her wonder why you havnt texted/called. Also, whats an appropriate amount of time to wait if you do number close?

Thanks,

Boz

There aren't any "rules" as such to any of this stuff, aside from the basic pleasantries such as being authentic and honest, and the default setting of "have fun". As such getting a phone number (or giving her yours) can be done any which way you like.

Personally, I prefer to get hers. It keeps the ball in my court - I'm in charge of persuing the interaction through the telephone rather than leaving me wondering whether she will call (and ultimately getting bored if she doesn't). Getting a girl's number is remarkably easy. Provided you have a good interaction with the lass, just hand her your phone and tell her to whack her number in, with the premise that you'll call her so you can hang out. Simple. I then ring her phone for two reasons: firstly, she'll have my number (and hence know who is calling), and secondly, I can be sure she's given me the correct number and not a false one (this has happened. I was not amused).

That's my way (and the way of many others), by all means copy it or use it as a template, but try and take away the fundemental idea that whatever you think is an acceptable way to do it is the best way to do it. Believe this and she'll believe it too.

As for how long to leave it before you call, call her whenever you feel like. Don't feel pressured into doing it or try to act aloof by leaving it for 3 days, playing games like this is daft and makes you look like a petulant child. Rather, you're an alpha male. You see what you want and you take it. To this end, call her when you feel like it.

Did you just walk off when you realised she gave you the fake one?

Do you try different things each time or just stick to that structure.

This is what happened:

http://www.puaforum.co.uk/field-repo...hone-fail.html

To be fair, it was quite funny. But it was also unacceptable, a point I made forcefully to my flatmate when she revealed that she does it all the time.

In response to your second question, I don't really think about it. It's not a big deal. It's like telling a mate to come over and watch the football later.

"Tell you what, let's hang out later this week. Plop your digits in there and I'll ring you, let you know when I'm free"

I made it up now. It's not a structure except in the sense that it is a normal, structured sentence. Think of it as like ordering a pint. I'm sure that most of the time, you use the exact same way to order it but you don't think of it as a "routine" or "structure", you just do it. The best thing I can probably tell you is, if you want a girl's number, there's no wrong way to do it. Tell her what you want, and if she's not up for it, it's her loss.

Thanks, il bear all this in mind :)

Whats Kowalski's golden text?

You text the girl almost immediately with something along the lines of:

"Whoa who was that awesome guy you were just chatting to??"

It's afforded little success for me though, and for that reason I no longer use it.

I think im gonna try calling once I have the number so she has mine and to weed out fake numbers

You're just gonna have to just start getting some numbers under your belt. Don't focus on it being perfect. Sometimes you just have to accept that a lot of these girls will flake even if they have given they do give you the correct number. It's life, not all girls will feel attraction for you.

Always get her number, I always call the number as soon as I get it to make sure it's genuine, sometimes I'll have a daft conversation on the phone with her there and then.

To be honest I don't think going for phone numbers during nightgame is the first priority. Jaz taught me this. Girls will frequently give their numbers out to guys of an evening to the point where it's meaningless if her intention is to just cast you aside, only when a girl is really into you to the point a phone number is the begining of something worthwhile will a number exchange have any real meaning attached to it.

A number is far morely likely to be solid and reward with you any follow up contact once you've already kissed the girl. The number exchange will then follow more naturally.

For night game, I think kiss close then number close should be your aim.

For day game (not that I count myself as an expert in this arena by any stretch). A number exchange lends itself more naturally within the environment you are in. Just your 'balls-out' brazen approach is going to make you instantly stand out and if the girl is taken by this, this approach alone is often enough for a solid number.