Spanish bar girl at butlins?
 

ok so this is the second time i'm asking for advice without giving any tangible input to other members of the forum, my excuse is that i'm at the start of my journey as a pua so there's not much real input i can really give, all i can do is promise that i will give back to the community eventually once i've found my balls and started a daygame/nightgame diary (which i intend to do) and gathered some valuable infield experience from which to draw advice from...

so i have another situation, a little trickier than the last one since i have 0 history with this girl and i only have a week to make some magic happen. i'll try to include as much detail as possible.

so i'm working in butlins for 1 week on a new development, today being the first day. i went to a bar after work and found a HB8 spanish girl behind the bar (shes about 20, i'm 25). after talking for a while, i find her english isn't too good and so we switch between english and spanish throughout the conversation (i grew up in spain and can speak almost fluently). now, i can see there is definitely some kind of attraction there, but my workmate joined me and i sort of ignored her for half an hour, til i needed another drink (and had an excuse to start a conversation) so i asked if she was free anytime this week and if she wanted to come for a drink, she said no, shes working all week, but we can go out if im in the area again at a later date (which i most certainly can be since i know a few B&B owners around this area ;)) and then she went on to say something along the lines of "its not like that", in other words, we can hang out as friends but thats it... i sort of panicked and said i just wanted to practice my spanish and get to know her better (my logic was that im buying more time to win her over this way)... she then told me that she'll be working in this bar every night this week and i can pop in anytime to "practice spanish" with her. she said im the only person who she's been able to speak castellano with since she came to england in january, so there's a chance the attraction is purely based on that, but i cant be sure since the eye contact and body languange said otherwise...

so my questions to you pros in this forum is, how can i nudge this situation in the right direction? what do i make of the mixed signals i got from her, i this typical of women? also, in relation to the last question, would you say foreign women communicate non-verbally in a diferent way to english women??? i feel like there's some chemistry there but it may be just a mutual nostalgia of spain... i cant be too sure if theres any sexual chemistry on her part at all, but surely i can do something about that? how? how would you guys play this hand?

i appreciate your advice guys, and sorry if this reads as a jumble of words, i'm kind of new to writing forum posts :biggthumpup:

i understand where you're coming from, but she was giving me IOIs but seemed a little frigid... like a really nice timid girl who isn't comfortable with sexual vibes? specifically because she's new to this country and unsure of english strangers who aren't obvious alpha males who she would fuck in a heartbeat, although im not sure she'd fuck anybody in a heartbeat... i wouldn't call it false pretence, more of a reassurance that i'm not purely just trying to fuck her (which is true, shes a nice lass from spain).

when it comes down to it, muscle to the metal, rubber to the road, however you wanna put it, i think she'd be down for a fuck its just gonna take some time to bring her round. she aint no slag for sure. maybe im wrong (theres a % im right) but i need to learn this the hard way imo its the only way... am i just thinking like a major AFC?

She told you she just wants to be friends . Theres no mixed vibes or signals, theres nothing in your post that indicates she has interest in you, although in fairness you never honestly portrayed your interest in her either.

Forget and move on. Next time you meet a girl you like dont fuck about and make pitter patter, just tell her you like her and you'd like to take her out.

ok guys thanks i appreciate the input. i will be in the bar a few nights anyway so i will take your advice and say something along the lines of "we must hang out together when you're not in work cos i think you're cute" next time im in and play it from there. i wasn't direct last time.
as far as her interest goes, (i was there lastnight too) she gravitates to where i am standing at the bar everytime theres nobody to be served, and flirts with her eyes (the most reliable ioi imo). im not purely just trying to fuck her, she's a laugh. good company. but it would be nice ;).

i'm not completely useless with women, i have a good feel for whether its on or not as there's 4 other lasses im "gaming" in other towns, this spanish girl is the only one i find enigmatic hence why im being so anal with it on this forum haha. the way i see it is its not as black and white as green and red lights? i mean they exist, but there's a chasm of grey area between the 2, and surely its in these uncertain situations where pick up artistry can be practiced most and put to its best uses, to learn to increase the green light frequency?
thanks

i believe what you both said about it being a waste of time, i wont pursue it at the cost of my dignity of course, its all just abit of fun.

thanks guys !