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Adam, do you really know what girl you're looking for?

A ONS or a girl to spend time with?

And are you being realistic?

I've had many "sucess stories" but they are personal to me, but I do believe they have come about from putting in effort and really taking on board how it works and doing it.

You will improve Adam.

Another thing....

Last night i saw 2 types of guys - 1) guys trying to be themselves and get chicks, and 2) guys trying to be someone else to get chicks.

I know which group will get the real sucesses with women.

News flash - night game is bitch sheilds guarding ONS and womens ego's super inflated so you will bounce off them. Its fake and its childish.

Know the game and dont take it personally.

I know where you're coming from Adam, I went out last night and had a pretty shit night. Was getting good up until Cefai left leaving me with a non-community friend who is a nice guy but tends to suck the life out of me. Anyway excuses aside. Saw a couple of girls in this venue that i'd kissed closed not so long ago and had pretty good interactions with. When approaching both of them each treated me with abit of hostility and were trying to make me start back at square one again and have to work for their attention. I couldn't be fucked with that bullshit.

I think unfortunately some women lack foresight, they revel too much in their percieved sense of 'higher' value throwing away perfectly good opportunities for themselves then moan when some inauthentic dancing monkey manages to trick her into bed.

I agree with David, I know which camp i'd rather be in.

I also know how you feel, camarda.

I went out on Friday night and had a great night, made about 8 approaches, only 1 rejection which wasn't a bad one, a few great interactions and the rest were quality as well. Went out the following night and it was a different story.

I'm finding more and more that these fat fucking bitches tend to be quite hostile when in company of their more attractive friends (Jaz highlighted this in one of my other posts), so I'm always half expecting it now. And when it happens I try and laugh it off.

I'm also finding that when I open a set with a 100% genuine opinion opener about something I actually wouldn't mind hearing their opinion on, someone says "is that how you chat women up?" I'm not chatting you up! (yet). I do find that attitude a little confusing and irratating, but I'm trying to create a indifferent mentality to it all, so that I don't care what some deluded, irrelevant woman who has an over-inflated has to say. I'm finding it challenging to be indifferent, but I think it's getting there. When a woman is hostile or rude I do find it really tempting to reply in kind, but what's the point, as you'd only be wasting you're precious time and energy? Does everyone share this opinion, or is it sometimes good to give as good (or more) as you get?

I do find it surprising that some of them feel it necessary to be hurtful with their words. But whenever you get some bitch who says something like that, know that their "opinion" of you is not representetive of all woman. There's a good chance that the next HB you approach will be really into you and will enjoy your company. I'm finding it to be a bit of a lottery.....

Another thing that frustrates me a bit - you never really know what you're going to get because you can't always judge by their appearance. For instance, on Friday there was this HB9 who appeared to be stuck up and potentially a bitch. But I approached her and she was absolutely lovely. In contrast, on Sat night I approached a smart, intelligent looking 4 set and all but one of them were fairly horrid!?

I know I haven't described the success story's that you requested at the start of you post. Briefly, my biggest success so far is my ability to approach and interact with woman 200% more effectively than before I got into this whole thing (no exagerration - I was pretty fucking useless); and that I'm improving continuosly and that eventually I'm going to reach the point where it all 'clicks', and when that time comes, everything will have been worth it. (I'm in a good frame of mind at the moment, long may it last!)

Maestro.

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i know what i am, i know what i'm worth. i seriously believe girls should be fucking begging for me.

man, that's not a chilled out attitude

...that attitude puts pressure on yourself

...then when women act in a very negative (or even nasty) way, it will wind you up

"you win some, you lose some"

now THAT'S a chilled out attitude :cool:


BUT although I say this now... I also can relate to your situation...

I had an infamous night at a London club in February last year where:

A) I mistakenly stayed on at the club after my group of male and female friends had all left, as I was *so* determined to pull

B) So I drank some more alcohol.......... and hit on more chicks

C) I got frustrated with the lack of k-closing / #-closing happening that night

D) So I drank some more alcohol.......... and hit on more chicks

E) And in under an hour, I slipped up on the dance floor, cut my hand on my bottle. Blood. Blood. Blood. Pathetic. A helpful barman volunteered to give me disinfectant and plasters (they had a first aid kit! amazing!).

F) On way home, I fell asleep on night bus, it felt like I ended up in Paris or somewhere and had to walk most of the way back to London, while absolutely exhausted. Home 5 am.

G) My quality new-ish shirt had to be binned, as after being washed the bloodstains wouldn't budge

H) (fortunate part) the cuts healed quite quickly

After that, for the next month I took a step back from it all. From the self-imposed pressure.

I avoided gaming for six weeks, went out with friends for sake of having fun only, focused on nights out at restaurants and flat parties rather than clubbing, deliberately went home on or before last tube (that's 12.20 am ish) A transformation can sometimes happen hanging about in a nightclub in the early hours and haven't got anywhere; :mad:get frustrated: grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. :argh:
RECAP:

"you win some, you lose some"

now THAT'S a chilled out attitude :cool:

Rebus

Oh hell yeah it did. And thats the game.

They can be bitches, shallow, nasty, but thats because they are insecure and fragile.

And they're fucking awesome, never forget that man, women are fucking awesome. We keep going back for more because of the way they make us feel.

You're a talented good looking man Adam, I dont worry you wont pick up girls, I worry you'll get that many you might forget how to treat them.

But you know this and you are a great guy who we all love.

It's good to hear you're feeling better about it Adam. I feel the exact way you were feeling sometimes - like I'm swimming against the tide and not getting the results I feel I deserve. One of the main gripes I've been struggling with is the nagging doubt that we're simply playing a numbers game here. That no matter what you say or do, the successes we get are down to the number of women we approach; sooner or later, one of them is going to dig us, right?

Like you've said with your analogy of the bridge collapsing due to perfect resonance (I think that's what it's called...), these doubts can hit you at a low point and bring the whole thing crashing down. The important thing is that when this happens, you just build a new bridge and keep at it. Whilst you don't give up, you don't fail, so it's good you've got yourself back in the saddle and ready to take on the world again.

As for success, like I've said before, I'm hardly a success machine in this game so far. There have been some good interactions, a baker's dozen numbers and one or two kisses, but for someone who's been at this for the best part of a year, I'm a little frustrated with my progress too. But the way I look at it is that I've had a year of going out and having an awesome time. I don't regret a single approach, text message or phone call (and believe me there have been a lot worthy of regret!) because in the end, it's all taking me in the right direction towards my goals.

The best success of the year for me has been a girl called Charlotte. I didn't pull her or even try to, but just by being cool and developing myself, I've gained a friend who's awesome. In hindsight, talking about awesome friendships, I've met and formed wicked relationships with the Bristol crew. None of this could have happened without this community and its mentalities.

Sorry to but in, but no, its not a numbers game.

Its right girl, right place, right time + right action.

Its not a simple thing as just approach 100 girls and 1 will like you.

When you meet a girl, she can already be in a relationship, or out with her friends who are going to make it difficult, or shes too pissed, or shes having a bad night, there are so many things that come into it.

But the sucess comes when it is the right one, you've got the skills to to make it happen, to give the girl a great time. I've had plenty of these and where I am at right now is a good place and its come about through putting in the effort and having the right attitude to it all.

You build this bridge to walk on, and after walking on it so many times you know how it goes. Its just learning to walk the walk..

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