Tricky Situation - can anyone help here?

[selector09]

Hey guys, 1st of all thanks for reading.

I am quite new to this and admittedly a bit of a rookie. I was wondering if i could share my experiences and get some feedback.

Basically, a new assistant has started at work, a few months ago. I have been slowly talking to her more and more, from emails to texts to phone. Its got to a point where we spend pretty much everyday talking on and off.

I think I may have already fallen in the friends zone, because every now and again she starts bangin on about her ex. However she is always very complimentary of me, always telling me how good i am, and sometimes she will be a bit touchy feely aswell.

The issue lies here. I am from an indian background, but not the same as her indian background. She has said to me numerous times she wont consider anyone from another background. My views on this are not so restrictive so I still want to pursue it and hopefully change her school of thought. This will not be easy.


I dont know what other details I need to provide - Im pretty sure she doesnt think I like her, and im being friendly, bit cautious of being open with her cos shes from work. Last night at a work do, i spent pretty much the whole night talking to her, and now alot of ppl in the office are already thinking things about us.


anyway, any input would be GREATLY appreciated..


thanks in advance, and please feel free to ask any questions that may help solve this dilemma

[selector09]

we both born and raised in london, but i am originally from a place in india called bengal, and am muslim, she is from a place in india called gujarat, and is hindu. So it is a cultural and religious thing really...she has it ingrained in her head that she can only look at gujarati hindus - her parents are probably a major part of her reasons for thinking like this.

any ideas?

[TorchedFrog]

think you hit the nail on the head with your own reply, in her head the pain and disappointment she suspects will come from her parents will far outplay the emotions you can give her.

in your head picturing the 2 off you together you see lots of fun times shared

in her head all she can see could be her fathers disapproving face and disownment from family members

i don't know if this is true, just what i suspect.

[nova]

Like you say you are being cautious because she is from your workplace. The question is, are you really willing to take any risks to let her REALLY know where you are coming from, and also... is it worth this risk?

If I were you I'd look beyond the workplace, it can leave an awkward environment for both of you. After all, you say people are beginning to talk about you already. This is not healthy, especially if she is thinging the opposite.

[picard]

Originally Posted by selector09

. Last night at a work do, i spent pretty much the whole night talking to her, and now alot of ppl in the office are already thinking things about us.

You may have over-sold it here...

people, especially in offices, will make a big deal out of anything....

if it were me... i would back-off, and try focusing on something/someone else for a bit... see how that affects both your feelings and hers...

if you're still feeling more for her... just ask her out!

If she says 'no' due to the possible reasons you mentioned... then you know, to knock-it-on-the-head and crack-on elsewhere! You will know where you stand!

Good luck!

Picard.

[Zone]

When your talking to her have u tried using alittle sexual Innuendo, turning the conversation alittle playfully sexual.
You said you new to this,so get learning about attraction and ioi's. attract/hit on her without her being awear of it. Get talking to as many women as u can, get your mind off her.