How many approaches do you do a month?
 

Do you guys keep a tab / log? Curious how many approaches some people might be doing a month.

These days with work I only get out to game once a week. So my number of cold approaches are 40-50 per month

Not many

Need to get my finger out

or in, depending on how you wanna look at it! Am I right guys?! ;)

I don't count, because that is a bit weird. I just go out and enjoy myself. the phrase "cold approach" is a bit sad. I just meet new people at a bar and enjoy their company for who they are as a person.


that just sounds like you get rejected 40-50 times a month. I don't understand how you could be relaxed when meeting some one new if you are just counting her as just another number.

Is this an actual pick up artist forum?

Doesn't seems like it for me if you guys don't do cold approaches.

First off it depends what you mean by cold.It was basically landed on that for it to really be 'cold', you're basically talking about going up to random people indiscriminately, without and real reason to talk to them, no eye contact, body language, or any reason even on an implicit intuitive level for there to be chemistry or receptivity.

Bearing the above in mind, saying you'll do a lot better if you're going up to people with a vague basis of context or with some chemistry that's already clear, really is kind of self evident.

A personal aside, not speaking for anyone else, but there's way too much emphasis on approaching in general. While you do need to go up to people to talk to them, the community places this weird overemphasis on the very start with little attention to where to go from there. As a result you get people flitting around doing like 20 1 minute interactions where you'd be far better off doing a handful of longer, deeper ones.

I don't think there's anything wrong with doing lots of cold approaches. If you're starting off it can help built a little momentum and self confidence. It sets a low, achievable bar for success and can be exciting if you aren't used to it. Having said that though, if your goal is to actually get laid rather than to get mad PUA lair approach props, you might want to rethink how you go about things. I've done plenty of nights randomly cold approaching 20+ groups of people, and it typically doesn't get you far, whereas being patient and doing 3-5 longer sets a night that make sense to do generally works way better for actually getting laid.

Then again, this is all assuming you were actually asking what people meant, rather than just posting to complain as per.

Cold approaching is great. Sure getting signals off girls has the best success rate but believe it or not, not every girl that finds you attractive will spot you in the club.

If YOU think a girl is hot and would like to chat with her to put your penis inside of her vaginal canal THEN do it.

That's all there is to it. Anybody that says differently is only bullshitting you. Don't go cold approaching aimlessly to every girl in the club like you're fucking Sapmi but also don't feel like you can or should only approach girls who are giving you signals.

I found my best successes came from girls giving me signals, usually looking over at me, but the best nights and best results would be from approaching girls I wanted regardless.

That said if you're having a laugh then approach as many or as little as you like.

This!

It's true for day game too.

I probably approach 10 per weekend which is 40 per month.

I was keeping track of successful compliment missions but now I am nearly at my goal of 50 successful approaches I need to go for more meaningful conversations so I am no longer counting compliment missions.

There isn't exactly a steady stream of hot chicks where I live unless you count the hoardes of underaged ones.

I guess they go off to uni at 18 or where the jobs are.

approaching is like going to the gym, the more you do it the better you get at it. I would say at least 10 per day for beginners, and later as you will notice you will approach less and less because your interactions would be better and better. approaching is a muscle and not only that it is a communication skill that must be perfected.