How to play this so I don't come off as too needy

[bro21]

OK here is a little background about me.

I've been approaching girls for basically the last 3 months during the day. It was a slow start where I could only approach 1 girl a day, but now I can approach multiple girls should I choose. However I'm not here to talk about approaching. My problem is after that, and after I have the girls number. I have got 13 girls number doing this, and only 4 have of them have text me back, and I only ever got 1 to go on a date with me...and she had a boyfriend.

Now yesterday I went out and met a gorgeous girl, in my eyes she is a 10! I'm not just saying that, she's got the whole big boobs, blonde hair thing going on and her face actually doesn't need too much make up. Looks wise it's what I go for in a woman. The thing is, I am relativity new to approaching, and during the day, I'm lucky to keep an interaction going for more than 5 minutes. I did my usual in-direct approach in the day time, as I believe direct catches them too off-guard. She was thankful. I found out she was 21. She has 2 jobs, and she didn't even go out for New Years and she was in bed by 10. I asked her what her faults we're and her response was "It could be that I have a boyfriend...but, I don't actually haha". I thought this was a great sign of interest, for her to tell me she was single. I ended up getting her number and when I asked for it, she said to me "Ofcourse you can". I thought, again, another good sign.

Last night I text her with a joke, to which I got no reply too, mainly though, it was so she could have my number too.

Now, like I've said I've been only approaching for 3 months (although I go out damn near everyday to do it), but whenever I text a girl, the majority of the time, she does not text back, and it's getting on my nerves now.

So, I told myself last night I was going to call this girl today, as I'm getting sick of waiting around for texts.

I rang 3 girls last night, just to leave a message, as I knew the wouldn't answer (I was right) to practice in case I do need to leave a message for this girl today.

Anyway, I rang her today, as soon as I finished work, I figured due to recent form of the girls from the last few days, this girl wasn't going to answer but I had to take a chance. But she actually did answer. I said hello, asked how she is and what she was up to. She was getting coffee with a friend. I didn't have much of a game plan, before the call, my main objective, was to secure a date. I asked her favourite colour between blue and black. She said black. I said I preferred blue, but I was asking to see which colour she would prefer me to wear on our date. I asked when this could happen. She said she didn't know as she won't know until she gets her work rota on Monday. I asked if she was working over the weekend, she said no but she was busy. So I told her we'd sort something out when she gets her work rota and go from there. The phone call was 1 minute 14 seconds in case anyone was wondering, I know, super short.

I'd like some advice on how to play it from here?

Should I wait until Monday before calling or texting again?

Do I drop a text over the weekend to remind her I'm still alive?

Or do I wait til something like Tuesday and try again?

Thanks in advance, and sorry for the long post.

[dan300]

Originally Posted by bro21

Now yesterday I went out and met a gorgeous girl, in my eyes she is a 10! I'm not just saying that, she's got the whole big boobs, blonde hair thing going on and her face actually doesn't need too much make up. Looks wise it's what I go for in a woman.

I've had this where I get the number off a woman I consider a 10 to me. It's a buzz.

However..

during the day, I'm lucky to keep an interaction going for more than 5 minutes.

but whenever I text a girl, the majority of the time, she does not text back, and it's getting on my nerves now.

These are also 2 sticking points for me. Some don't text back, or the ones that do it fizzles out after a while. I think I could be partly responsible for some of them fizzling out due to me not amping it up & instead just going out getting more numbers.

The initial conversation is important here too. If you have only talked to a girl for a minute or 2 the likelihood of her texting back are 50/50, & even when she does you're still some random guy who she knows nothing about.

The initial interaction needs to hold significance to her so that she remembers you & how you made her feel, so she's on the phone right away texting everyone with a set of boobs what just happened.

I asked her favourite colour between blue and black. She said black. I said I preferred blue, but I was asking to see which colour she would prefer me to wear on our date.

You never actually asked her colour she wanted you to wear did you?

It's overthink. I've never heard a girl complain about the guy who turned up to a date wearing a colour she didn't like. Don't waste your energy on this silly shit. Just wear what you are comfortable in & don't be standing in front of a mirror with 2 outfits in either hand spending an hour deciding what she would like best.

I'd like some advice on how to play it from here?

Should I wait until Monday before calling or texting again?

Do I drop a text over the weekend to remind her I'm still alive?

Or do I wait til something like Tuesday and try again?

Thanks in advance, and sorry for the long post.

I'd leave it & just do whatever I'm doing. If she texts you first great. If she doesn't I'd probably fire her a text on Saturday evening saying something about the cool shit you're doing that night. Don't try & suggest anything or question her again about work or if she's still busy. If she's not busy & is able to meet she'll let you know.

I had the "work rota" thing come up a month or 2 ago with a girl on tinder. We were gunna meet but I fucked it up one night by sending her "rawr" which I literally knew better than to send because she was a sophisticated elegant Spanish woman & I tried to use childish banter with her.