Shyness

[turkish_daddy]

I am a single male in London and am shy when it comes to ladies/girls and don't have a approach technique please could you help

This makes me sad

Thanks

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Thanks

[Mashood]

Hey mate

Are you in a wing group at all?

I'm in a similar boat as you, in that the nerves limit my approach ability. I find all I need sometimes is a mate to force me to approach when I see a girl.

Message me direct, if you want to sarge together at sone point.

Mashood

[AJay]

Is that a joke? Your name is seriously mustafa bruce dickison ali? Perhaps try that has an opener, "hi I AM mustafa bruce dicksion ali". Going out with someone else and having a mess around not taking approaching seriously will combat the shyness. Try night game first and just walk up to people and talk abouy what you see. Ask questions comment.... we end up sometime in a cycle that we have to break. You can become angry at being angry, tired of being tired and in this case shy of being shy.

[boybryant]

Go up to people in the street, ask for directions and then get into a conversation by saying "oh I noticed ... about you".

This is how I started and after you keep doing it, it becomes easier to speak to strangers/women.

[Shahanshah]

Nah that's a waste of time. That just makes you really great at being able to ask for directions. You'll be the most oriented virgin around after six months.

If you wanna get good at getting pussy, go out and start getting pussy.

[drop collision]

Originally Posted by boybryant

Go up to people in the street, ask for directions and then get into a conversation by saying "oh I noticed ... about you".

This is how I started and after you keep doing it, it becomes easier to speak to strangers/women.

I think this is a good idea; I wouldn't do it. I prefer to go to a bar and open with a indirect opener. I do believe in progression, Rome wasn't built in a day.

Confidence comes from feeling comfortable; and feeling comfortable comes from repetition.

I remember years ago, I just couldn't give a girl a compliment. But the more I felt comfortable about opening; the transition to giving compliments became easy.

[Shahanshah]

And that phase should be very short. But something you have to change about yourself. You have to actually start being more social in general.

[astroboy]

The good news is that pretty much everyone suffers from nerves to certain degree or another. The bad news is that it never goes away completely, you just learn to live with it and not be overwhelmed by it.

People always view me as being self confident and surprised to see when I'm scared to death all the time. I used to be really shy as a kid (introverted) and after teenage life learned to be / act more extroverted

The only way to get past this is with allot of pain. Like anything else, no pain no gain just like in the gym. So you have to go there and make an ass of yourself. And actually laugh it off and that actually makes you more relatable to others. So it only comes from thousands and thousands of times of learning not to let fear dictate your actions.

Now there are no shortcuts but there are a couple things that help. Force yourself to smile, laugh, giggle everytime / before you approach someone. Whether you feel this or not this releases certain chemicals in your body which confuse the chemicals in your physiology relating to anxiety. Force yourself to stand up straight and breath through your diagphram. As when you are anxious the tendency is to breath shallow and let the shoulder slump. However this is something you can be conscious of and might take some discipline to letting yourself getting pulled the other way. But it will help with keeping you generally more self confident.

End of the day though, you need to get wet if you want to learn how to swim.

[drop collision]

Originally Posted by astroboy

The good news is that pretty much everyone suffers from nerves to certain degree or another. The bad news is that it never goes away completely

Yes it does. it's called confidence

Originally Posted by astroboy

The only way to get past this is with allot of pain

You are only talking to a woman!

Originally Posted by astroboy

Now there are no shortcuts but there are a couple things that help. Force yourself to smile, laugh, giggle everytime / before you approach someone.

Just like you have escaped from the mad house

Originally Posted by astroboy

Whether you feel this or not this releases certain chemicals in your body which confuse the chemicals in your physiology relating to anxiety.

Chemicals like Cocaine?

Originally Posted by astroboy

Force yourself to stand up straight and breath through your diagphram. As when you are anxious the tendency is to breath shallow and let the shoulder slump. However this is something you can be conscious of and might take some discipline to letting yourself getting pulled the other way. But it will help with keeping you generally more self confident.

Astroboy, you sound like a fake trying to sell a product.