My views on monogamy

[Gr82]

Hi, I wrote this recently on my blog championpua.com. It would be good to get some feedback from this community. Thanks


My views on monogamy

I found a girl who has everything I would be looking for in a girlfriend.

She’s cute, a wild party girl who likes to keep fit and have dirty sex. Whenever we go out, it’s super-fun. She fucking worships me and would jump at the chance of being my girlfriend.

But I won’t let it happen.

To me, a relationship is nothing compared to the thrill of hitting the nightclub, the butterflies as you spot the next cute girl, approach her, overcome the original skepticism and watching it turn into attraction.

Then there’s the crazy adventure that comes with trying to pull her away from her buddies, out of the club and get to the sex location.

It’s almost as fun as the sex itself. Almost.

Thanks to the game, I am totally happy being tee-total. I spend my weekdays partying in the night-clubs or dating the hotties I met there. Living every day to the fullest. Every day I’m meeting dozens of new people and who knows one of them could be next girlfriend.

Monogamy

I can’t see that happening any time soon though.

I understand how it would be awesome to spend most days hanging out and having sex with a super-fun gorgeous chick. It’s certainly a less demanding way to get sex. But what if you could learn to make loads of super-fun gorgeous chicks want to hang out and have sex with you?

I’d bet that most blokes would choose that if it was handed to them on a plate.

Maybe I think that because my last two experiences of long-term relationships were so disastrous. It could be because the thought of having kids Or maybe it’s because I have this to desire achieve something awesome every day.

Either way, I don’t see myself trading the drama of the game for the easy life of cuddles on the sofa, cosy dinner dates and visiting the future step-parents any time soon, possibly ever!

Social conditioning


These views go massively against social conditioning.

I think that’s the reason why I sometimes ask myself: ‘Why can’t I be normal?’ Why can’t I be happy with just one girl?’

It’s normally during a cold spell. The last two times it happened, a text from a new girl rang through moments later and I was cured.

There’s a part of me that’s terrified I’ll never get the ‘happy ending’ that society says I should be aiming for.. There’s always an element of fear that comes with uncertainty.

But there’s another part of me that’s excited about the life I could create for myself by turning that ‘happy ending’ down.

[Phenom]

So basically you abstain from monogamy because you're an insecure pussy hound?

I see on your blog you were on first dates. Were you this guy?


Coincidentally I see you're looking at coaching in Oct 2015. Why such a pre-ordained date? Also what will you offer that's different than every other PUA charlatan out there since your blog reads no different from theirs?

[top-hat]

Originally Posted by Phenom

So basically you abstain from monogamy because you're an insecure pussy hound?

I see on your blog you were on first dates. Were you this guy?


Coincidentally I see you're looking at coaching in Oct 2015. Why such a pre-ordained date? Also what will you offer that's different than every other PUA charlatan out there since your blog reads no different from theirs?

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That dude sounded differently.
They also do not show everyone on first dates

[Stein]

Originally Posted by Gr82

To me, a relationship is nothing compared to the thrill of hitting the nightclub, the butterflies as you spot the next cute girl, approach her, overcome the original skepticism and watching it turn into attraction.

Then there’s the crazy adventure that comes with trying to pull her away from her buddies, out of the club and get to the sex location.

Yeah, it's a good laugh. Don't know about thrilling though. It actually gets pretty samey and boring after a while. If you get butterflies in your stomach going up and talking to a girl you should probs do more until you're more used to it.

Also, don't use the term sex location. It's weird.

Originally Posted by Gr82

I understand how it would be awesome to spend most days hanging out and having sex with a super-fun gorgeous chick. It’s certainly a less demanding way to get sex. But what if you could learn to make loads of super-fun gorgeous chicks want to hang out and have sex with you?

I’d bet that most blokes would choose that if it was handed to them on a plate.

If all you see a relationship as is a less demanding way to get sex, you definitely shouldn't be in one, so good call there.

I've been in a relationship for a good few months now. If I wanted to have sex with someone else it wouldn't take much; a couple of phone calls and a night or two of doing the standard thing I did when I was single would do it. And yet I choose not to. Funny that.

Originally Posted by Gr82

Maybe I think that because my last two experiences of long-term relationships were so disastrous. It could be because the thought of having kids Or maybe it’s because I have this to desire achieve something awesome every day.

It's probably the former, so don't fall into the trap of thinking it's the latter. Going out to Zoo bar and getting your dick wet from some random bird does not equate to achieving something awesome.

Originally Posted by Gr82

These views go massively against social conditioning.

Oh you rebel, you. Please teach us how to be cool and single and against the system like you.

What I get from this is that you're still at the stage where you think having sex with as many people as possible is awesome, and that's fine. You'll get tired of it eventually, that's just how it goes. But you're currently buying into this odd idea that your big life mission of trying to stick your willy in a hole is somehow a grand, magical, paradigm shifting adventure of supreme achievement, when in fact it's just a standard thing. Ironically enough this is social conditioning you've gotten from the PUA community

[Gr82]

Originally Posted by Jaz

I thought these sort of PUA guys were long dead?

I have been in a relationship with this chick for a couple of months.

Thinking logically, it was the best decision I could have made. She has everything I'm looking for in a girl. I'm so happy whenever she's around.

But my views on marriage and kids are the same. So in the long run it all seems so pointless. There's nothing else to aim for. And if she wants these things she'll eventually leave.

There's a small voice in my head telling me to leave her now, and work on my pick-up skills so I can have an abundance of chicks in the future. Perhaps younger chicks who are less fussed about this thing.

I absolutely loved every night in the field back when I was an active PUA.

But breaking ties with this chick will be tough, because she's the best gf I've ever had. If I do it, then that's a huge commitment to trying to live a playboy lifestyle. Short term pain for long term gain...but making decisions like these are always tough, especially when social conditioning days it's a retarded thing to do