Close to closing? Advice needed!

[Andrewdoesitwell]

Any advice you guys can offer would be much appreciated here…

So…

I’m far from a newbie, and have good instincts. Been with about forty women, kissed hundreds, turning thirty years of age in a couple of days…

There’s this really cute 20 year old chick staying in the same holiday resort I work at for the next two weeks…and been here a while. For the last week we’ve got on like a house on fire. Body language was always positive towards me, and we have the same sort of weird, kooky sense of humour and interests…

Anyway, when we first started hanging, I noticed that there were several lovesick guys hanging around also, that she would shoot to the ground when they tried to talk her into going home with them, or being more than buddies…I made sure to play it cool, avoiding any kind of indication of sexual interest, and succeeding…always got the feeling she was wondering why I wasn’t hitting on her, and was angsty when I talked to other girls…I teach yoga in the resort, by the way, so there’s never a shortage of women to talk to for me…

So, the last couple of nights before I tried it on with her, I made a point of walking away at the end of the night without saying goodbye, whilst she was talking to other chumps…and the next day/s. she was always pleased to see me, wanting to know what my plans were that night…cut to three nights ago, we went back to my place for a smoke, then I asked her to show me how her overly complicated shoes could be unfastened, I took them off, laid her on my bed, we were cuddling and mucho-kino (as you guys say) but no kissing. But it was mad fun. I asked her if she thought I was a sex pest. She said no, because “I was cheeky and fun about it.” She left eventually, and I thought maybe I pushed too hard.

Anyway, after she left, I made two quick decisions – 1) I am not going to be this girl’s safety net, and B) I’m taking a three-day holiday from hanging with her.

And there’s one day’s holiday left. The last two days? I’m actually been developing a fair old bit of detachment/resilience against her – she’s been enthusiastic about approaching me, asking what I’m doing, her friend keeps asking me what my plans are, and I think they changed their plans last night so that we bumped into each other…at least I think. Can’t be sure. In turn, I’ve backhandedly let her know I consider her a cock tease, and I’ve actually been going off her because of all the dorks she talks to. And I get a funny feeling that my not being friendly with her is leading to her bitching to her friends about me…because she doesn’t want to approach me…she’s uncertain as hell where she stands…plus, I told her the other night, before she left my place, when she told me we were “friends,” that we’d crossed that line already. And honestly? Her not wanting to have sex with me pisses me off, or puts me off? (I didn’t put it like that to her, obviously).

But I like her a lot, and I think she doesn’t know what to make of my avoiding her – she’s only been with 5 guys, and I’m trying to be far from the safe guy friends she is used to. My instincts have ALWAYS told me she digs me, and I think she really enjoyed me hitting on her the other night because it was the first interest I’ve shown her like that, and she was probably wet and loving it.

I know you dudes have all kinds of terms to describe the things I’ve been doing – treat her mean, keep her keen, push-pull, etc, so my question now is, after my third day avoiding her, how do I re-engage, how do I set it up for another attempt to get into her knickers…and just, any advice would be appreciated.

It’s my birthday in a few days, by the way, and she’s on about taking me to a flying trapeze class.

Your advice and thoughts would be much appreciated.

Andy ☺

[Sharky uk]

Hi Andrew, there is about a TONNE of canned material you could implement here... but it sounds like shes not going to be easy to bed... if it were me id probably move on to a different target... try to avoid putting her on such a high ranking in my thoughts... regarding wether shes worth the effort? My friend and i use a number ranking system... much like that of the one you read about in "The Game" if youve read that novel... rank her by her looks out of 10... 7 or below ? you can do better... move on... take that number... then give her a rank out of 10 on how you feel while she is around... her conversations... jokes etc and try to push the sexual desires out of your mind on this one... weve covered that with her original score ! if either are below 7... move on ! you dont have to apply this or choose the same levels as myself but youre a 10 man... be shallow if you need to be, after all... youre offering her something fantastic, offering to improve her life for a period of time... and thats not something she gets for free she has to be worthy... there are a few "red flags" there... i found the rating system keeps me detached from my male desires and focuses me more on logic yeilding fantastic results !
but enough of me babbling...
to open ater your three day break try something straight forward... and confident... perhaps something like "Would you like to buy me a drink or something tonight??" maintaining the cheeky banter youve had thus far !
hope this helped !
Sharky

[William T. Riker]

You have a brain, and a heart right.
Well my friend use them and you will never go wrong, learn to trust yourself and do what you feel is right,
golden advice is only from within you, other advice is in hope of guidence.
Do what you feel is right, no regrets, no retreats and no surrenders.
Love you
Will..

[Hustler25]

@William T.Riker.......that's all very well and good there Will, so what brings you here also asking for advice??

[nova]

Post a intro and get involved in this forum properly. My advice for now... forget about all these sly tricks of pretending your not interested too. No wonder you're in the friends zone!