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Just going off what you've written: She sites a lack of confidence and regretting it the last time she kissed someone. I read this as she is looking for someone who makes her feel confident, is honest and has strong morals.
We can make girls feel confident about themselves by liking them and having a stable internal locus of control. Having a stable internal locus of control means that you are a safe foundation to build their confidence on, so when you make them feel good they can safely let themselves believe in those good feelings because they wont crumble like whatever she founded her confidence on previously did. This quality manifests itself in making strong decisions and being unflappable.
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Great advice there K, thats brilliant stuff there and so true. She did say that i was different to any guy shes met tho, which was good to hear. And without sounding arrogant, i f***** know im better than all the chodes shes ever met. Sometimes though, you have to accept a lost cause and write it off. However, Im like John Mclain in the sense that i dont like to lose and now you've written that quality piece for me Kowalski, i feel as though i have new weapons in my armoury (Cheers!)....Ones of which i will be sure to use on other girls (such as the girl im seeing next weekend), but ones which i am eager to use on this girl too.
I put pressure on myself to achieve stuff in life and girls (such as this one) are no exception to this. But pressure is my motivation, when something is at stake (whether it be a girl or a 100m race!), i perform better and i raise my game!
I know i like my quotes so heres one from MJ's book (thats the famous sprinter not the whack job dead pop star!) and this is the way im treating this situation....."Announcing your intentions and the stakes is the best way to reclaim the pressure, think, 'Yes I expect to win or i'd like to get an A on this test. If i lose it wont be the end of the world, but you bet i'll be dissapointed'....."
Just thought id let you know my reasons for not letting this one drop K, and that im not just blindy ignoring your advice to sack it off just yet
Anyways, cheers for the advice guys. Knowledge is power!