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Simply David 01-02-2010 08:18 AM

Burning out...
 
Burning out..

Guys, I feel burnt out… Been doing this since September and I feel really low today, really drained and empty.

Has anyone else had this, its fucking with my head big time.

Think I know the cause, I basically fucked up seeing this girl, we had an intense week last week but Friday night I acted very chodey and it was weird.. I know I fucked it up but a small part of me wants to try and get it back on, I hate giving up on something. :der:

I’m supposed to have a day 3 with another girl tonight and a f close has been explicitly communicated by her but I don’t know if I want to as I feel so drained…

The effort seems like a mountain to climb at the moment, and im tired.:mad:

Anyone been there before?

Hustler25 01-02-2010 09:31 AM

Dude, we've all been there. Many times. This game is all about peaks and troughs, you'll pull yourself out of this in no time I'm sure. I'd say I experience the same feeling as you right now at least once every 4-6 weeks. Take a break and step back from this for a week or two, somebody posted recently about taking a break from game, it's a worthwhile exercise to come back feeling refreshed and revitalised.

This is an intensely emotional game we are in so inevitably it is going to be draining at some point. Just chill dude, relax for a little while and come back stronger.

Retro 01-02-2010 10:31 AM

Been there and got the t-shirt my friend. I went on a period of going out EVERY weekend fri and Saturday nights for about 4 months, i saw lots of good improvments and got as far as getting a number close, and then it just plateaued and every night was the same, lots of approaches but couldn't get past the barrier, i got down about it, frustrated etc. So i took a break, didn't go out for a couple of weeks and when i came out again, was full of energy again.

It's only natural that you will go through this, as you get this with any learning process. The 2nd break I've had over xmas (not by choice), and discovered a new center in myself without actually doing anything. I'm looking forward to this year and hopefully i'll be at a stage where you are in the not to distant future.

Retro

Tom 01-02-2010 12:35 PM

If you're not enjoying it then don't do it for a while, it's not a job. Also if I'm tired it usually affects my mood and ability to hold down a decent conversation.

Simply David 01-02-2010 02:13 PM

Thanks guys, I appreciate your posts.

Its an emotional exhaustion really, Im in this to eventually meet someone who will be my life partner and help me be my best self. Its hard to let someone like that go and daunting to think about moving on to the next one.

Suppose I'll just take a break and ride it out.

Any offers of hugs will be greatly appreciated. Xxx

picard 01-02-2010 04:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dolphin786 (Post 14762)
Burning out..



Think I know the cause, I basically fucked up seeing this girl, we had an intense week last week but Friday night I acted very chodey and it was weird..

The effort seems like a mountain to climb at the moment, and im tired.:mad:


had similar dude about 2 weeks ago... just had a bad little run... but i got myself out of it!

keep plugging away dude!

-or- we shud arrange a Pro-Sarging night for the near future, get some of the London Boys up to Manchester or vice-versa....



Picard.

Simply David 01-02-2010 06:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by picard (Post 14783)
we shud arrange a Pro-Sarging night for the near future, get some of the London Boys up to Manchester or vice-versa....

Love it Picard, solution to being burnt out = Pro-Sarging night.

Class!!

secretpua 01-02-2010 08:49 PM

I think once you fall in to the trap of dating people you're not really interested in just to test your skills then you burn out quick. I've just this weekend found this out. The thing about this whole game is the goal is to spend high quality time with people you have a connection with and occassionally I forget this simply because; a/ I'm horny or b/ I feel I want to test my skills.

If you aren't bothered about day three with this girl then you should cancel it. She hasn't pushed your buttons and it's time to devote your energy to someone that will.

d
Secret London Pua

PS Manchester sounds like a blast.

Pavel 01-02-2010 10:39 PM

game is not all about dating for me . it is not about relationships only . it is about feeling free to do more than society around me . breaking rules and take more from life . im really huppy that there are people like you guys . trying to make the same thing .
all in all every relationship might end enytime .

picard 01-02-2010 10:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dolphin786 (Post 14785)
Love it Picard, solution to being burnt out = Pro-Sarging night.

Class!!

if you cant beat em, join em! haha

;)

Pic.


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