Can your ex become your fuck buddy?
 

As the title asks, has anyone had such experience, or know someone who has? Obviously each situation is different, but as it’s stood, I’ve always assumed this was unfeasible. Now I wonder.

Maybe after a gap of a few years when it's all really cooled off, but for the most part I doubt it. There's almost always too much emotional baggage tied up in it for you to have the regular level of nonchalance you need to be fuck buddies. My guess is that you're wondering now because you liked having sex with your ex and now that there looks like there might be an opportunity you're just trying to find a way to rationalise it to make it seem like a good idea.

Which isn't to say 'don't do it'. Worst thing that can happen is it backfires, it's a bit painful and you end up learning something from it.

Yeah, kind of. When we broke it off initially a couple of weeks ago I blamed her and it ended badly. Last week we ended up fucking again, then I decided I needed to draw a line under things, so met her and told her there is to be no relationship as it's just not what I want. Fast forward to the wkd and she says she misses the sex.

I am cautious of her intentions, but last night she said how she appreciated my honesty with the break up. She said it was too soon to fuck as she still had feelings, but maybe with time. Each day she's texting about sex. This is quite a different dynamic we have as it feels like strictly sex, hence the fuck buddy thought.

I had an ex back in my home town that I would probably see every other month, and end up fucking, we didn't talk often but occasionally caught up on things every now and then, there was no chance of us getting back together and we both seemed pretty happy with occasional sex. That being said, she got a boyfriend some time ago and completely cut off contact with me, whether that would mean there is residual feeling or whether she's just moved on I don't know. It can work if both parties are mature and honest I think, but its a very risky area, easier if avoided I would think.

Its your ex. One of you will still have feelings there.

Tried it. Turned into a relationship as I was too pussy and emotionally invested to say no. From experience my answer is stop texting her and stay out of her life.

The only time I've seen this work is with a devout Christian couple who were separated - they met up for sex so they could keep the no sex before or outside marriage rule

They were a bit weird tbh...

Masturbation would seem like a good alternative in this case.

Well, yesterday she text me 'I want it'. So I got her around mine last night and we fucked. She stayed over, and this morning we went our separate ways, and without any mention of relationships or emotionally charged questions. We'll see how it goes. She's addicted to the sex we have, as am I, so this suits us for now. The question is, can she handle not having the status quo requirement of a relationship. I, for one, have assumed the frame that it's a normal arrangement that I won't judge her for.

This will be fun, but will ultimately not help me move forward with my own sex life if I just fuck her. Onwards with the other girls I've been chatting up recently :hihi: