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Originally Posted by BroadswordWSJ
What would you say to someone who on paper knows exactly what (or in theory knows exactly) what he's meant to do, but lacks confidence, has little experience and admittedly has "blurt" moments where he comes across as socially un-calibrated or border line lacking in social/emotional intelligence (probably as a result of lack of confidence/nerves)
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You need to get out more right now, that's all. Twice a week of speaking to girls, mandatory for it. Even if its solo or travelling far to meet people in other cities. Get the ball rolling. I have no idea how you learn it or at least I wouldn't want to give advice about it.
I was pointing out that so much of
PUA is about either giving you confidence, learning confidence or manipulation (A sort of opposite to confidence). When there's a big chunk of it that's down to social and emotional intelligence, a phrase that now makes me sound like a retard or a smug cunt.
Maybe one of the reasons
PUA doesn't address it is because its a tough subject, one that you can't bullshit about. Routines can give you confidence or manipulate girls; a bootcamp can make you feel confident, same with the
pua advice and going out all the time, but actually developing (If you're the type of person who can develop it, that is) SI and EI is a real tough subject.
If we're talking JUST sex, then confidence and SI/EI doesn't even matter that much, its all about finding the right girl haha which I guess is SI/EI.
Actually that's a great example, being able to tell if a girl is interested or not, spotting girls up for it. Those are great examples of some applicable social intelligence. But then again you're both drunk.