First Date Tricks
 

Ok, so I'm not fantastic at this game so far and don't have a wingman... so I generally use online dating sites. I know not the best, but good for practising skills...

Anyway. My online chat so far has landed me 3 likely dates this week. I have a challenge for myself: take them all on a first date that will make them all want me so much more, and also sleep with them on the third date.

So guys, what kinda things do you do to make an impression on the first date? What's the best way to escalate to sex?

-SS.

ur best bet is don't try and get laid. Just tell her u don't do sex on the first date... in fact u don't do it until you feel comfortable with someone.

just go out, be fun, have fun... have a dance off!!! tell her ur gonna kick her ass in a dance off.

Agreed, take your time. There's no rush. If you give it plenty of time and dont try and force it it'll normally fall into place.

I'd say think location too. I normally get her to meet at a bar within walking distance of mine first date, and either eventually head back to mine or just arrange to hang out at mine on the second date. For me that's normally the most convenient way to do things.

I've had a few dreadful first dates so I can tell you what not to do.

You'll be glad to hear this is congruent with the advice the guys who are good at it have told you.

forget about sex completely.

Don't let it not be fun otherwise she won't have much reason to go out with you again unless you're incredibly good looking. Have a corny joke or interesting story ready to tell. You want to pull her into your reality. She will not pull you into hers.

It's natural for both of you to be nervous at first meeting but get over that quickly. Choose somewhere that you feel comfortable and can relax. Some alcohol is helpful.

Think about the logistics as Stein says. Have some kind of plan. Plan A and Plan B preferably, taking into account the above.

What you're aiming for is her to want to see you again, that's all you need at this stage.

Of course that's assuming after the date you want to see her again.

Thanks for the advice guys! The general feeling I'm getting is that I ought to be learning to walk before learning to run (if that's the right analogy)

I'll concentrate on one date, and how I can make it as fun and entertaining as possible, with stories and everything!

(And shall hopefully return to the forums victorious with some second date ideas)

don't necessarily have to be Mr Entertainer but have something to fall back on if it starts to go flat (that's where a joke or story is good) or move to somewhere else. Just lead things along but sensing it's at a pace she seems comfortable with.

Don't try too hard either, sometimes just sit back and look around, have some silence, enjoy being in her company.

It's hard to describe. The main thing is to relax. You'll be fine.

Yeah, have a couple of stories just waiting to go that maybe lead into some questions too.

Also! This just popped into my head... ten pin bowling? That sounds fun, gives us something to instantly talk about and add in the slight competition could end up feeding the fun-ness of the date? Do you guys approve?

It's not so much whether we approve or not.

You need to be your own man. That's what she is looking for.

bowling is usually pretty reliable IMO. I always enjoy it.

You don't need to over-think this.

I'd normally start out at a coffee shop/bar for a few drinks and good conversation. This way, if the night is going bad then you've only bought a drink; hardly costly.

If it's going well then just after 30 mins or whatever, take her bowling as well.


Personally first dates are drinks and getting to know each other more at a face to face level.

I once paid for me and this lass to go to the cinema on a first date. Originally it was just drinks but she couldn't shut up so I decided I wanted to see a film instead. Also found out she had a very bad temper when I didn't text her back.

Similar to me. We had one drink at a bar then went on to cinema. It was a film I wanted to see.

I didn't realise there would be so much sexual content in the film but she was engrossed.

When we came out I was horny and tried to take her to another bar but she got a bit ratty and said no.

She drove me home and it ended with the dreaded head turn as I went to kiss her.

She was a princess though and I tried to rush things. A few of my friends had asked her out and she turned them down. They were the lucky ones I realised.

Most girls are okay tho.

As Barney says, see how it goes initially.