You guys are my only hope! Lot's of fear, completely stuck.
 

Hi Guys,

Bit of a long post, but I think everything in it’s necessary. Thanks massively in advance for reading.

I live in England, I’m 20, and I’ve just graduated from University. Was a virgin until about a year ago, where I met my first proper girlfriend. Was absolutely terrified to kiss her for the first time, had a lot of anxiety around it. Anyway, lost my virginity to this girl, and luckily for me it went awesome. Turns out, I’m really good in bed, which is nice.

So we dated for a solid year and now we’ve recently split up.

I’m a really social guy, and since being at University I feel I can consider myself a quite High Value guy. Very popular, and a 7+ out of 10 for looks. In fact, lots of my mates praise me for being able to open random strangers and chat with them. I have practically no approach anxiety when it comes to chatting with strangers however…

It seems I have no game. As soon as I have romantic intentions, all my social skills and ability to approach seem to vanish. A few years ago, I thought this was because I was pretty scared about kissing and sex (because of a lack of experience), but now I’m very confident in those areas, and it still seems I have this issue.

I went out with my mate Alan last night, this club was packed with girls, barely any guys and most were 7+. Should have been a walk in the park, but I couldn’t approach one girl. Some girls opened me, but I still didn’t manage to build any attraction.

A few years back, I read The Game, Mystery Method, Magic Bullets, 60 Years Of Challenge’s books, David Deangelo’s stuff, Paul Janka’s book to name a few.
I feel in ways I’ve read too much stuff and I’ve got a bit of information overload.

Right now, considering I’ve just come out of my first serious relationship, I’m just wanting to be able to pull girls and clubs, and take them home. Preferably, I want to be able go up to girls that are dancing in a club and pull them. Totally open to the idea of day game as well, I’d probably be better at that.

Living in the UK, most of the clubs are dance clubs and seem to be too loud to run standard mystery method.

So, paralysed be fear, I’m really not sure where to begin. I was really sure I’d be able to go out last night and pull, but it seems I’ve got a huge level of fear. I don’t know want to do, what method to follow? How to get over this fear? Should I go on a course? I’m totally stuck.

So please, Pick-Up Community, give me some advice. I feel I’ve got potential, just no idea how to break through this barrier.

Thank you massively in advance!

NotEvenJames

TLDR: Good social skills but a lot of fear regarding picking up women. Feel like I’ve almost read too much PUA and now I have no idea how to progress.

just go out and keep speaking to girls until u can be urself around them.

get rejected loads until it becomes funny.

if ur a cool guy u dont have a problem other than practice in speaking to women and handling rejection.

Thanks very much. Guess i'll just have to keep trying.

Hello mate, welcome

It seems like potential to be a kick ass PUA is all there, something that helps me is looking at a girl and thinking I'm going to fuck her tonight, instead of thinking wow she is so hot, which I got from a thread here, also as your so nervous get a few drinks in you (not too many) and if I was in your shoes id memorise a few opening routines just to help give you the confidence to actually open a set, you seem like once your in you'll be fine, so if you already think your going to fuck this girl and you already no what the first thing your going to say is, then your well and truly there my friend! Then after you've open millions of sets you'll forget routines and you'll be your own person and girls will love that evan more!

Hey NEJ

Welcome along!

As Phil said go out and talk to them! It's like anything else you do the more you do it the better you get at it and the more comfortable you are doing it.

The way that I got better at talking to girls was focusing on one thing at a time, so to begin with I'd just aim to "open". Then when I had that down aim to have a good conversation (like I'd have with my friends). Next I worked on building physical rapore and eventually I worked on sealing the deal.

What I found was I'd often have so much fun with my friends and meeting people on a night out I'd just not bother with following anything up!

Have fun and make it what you want it to be, it can change your life not just the notches in your bedpost

This. Breaking it down makes it so much easier

I like Daleinthedark's advice.

I tried "Open and speak" but realised I was too nervous to carry it on or even have anything to say anyway haha. I fucking love this shit now. Cant keep me in the house.