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how to react to 'jealousy tests' ? -
18-11-2009, 10:24 AM
im on a day 4 which i have planned for saturday night.
back story: met this girl 2 weeks ago, openened, her, and K-closed & #-closed in one night through what can only be described as textbook gaming! The Day 2 was 3 days after, again textbook and resulting in the F-close. Day 3 was a few days after, again no nonsense, fun, romance and of course F-closing all night  so, after one or two cheeky phone calls im organising Day 4. She's agreed and is very keen, i got the green light on it. Now, i get the impression she is very into me, we have very similar tastes/humour and we both seem to get down to business, without any time-wasting or awkwardness, i really like this. Not to mention shes a HB9! However, last night after our phonecall, where we casually confirmed everythign for saturday, (she was alone in a taxi cab whilst on the phone to me). she text me back saying "the cab driver asked me out saturday night decisions decisions...xx" Now, im sure you guys are going to say 'she's joking around' which i've no doubt she is... however, assuming it is definately a joke, how would you say is the best way to react to that kind of thing?? Joke back?? Acknowledge & Compliment?? Pretend to be Hurt in a jokey way?? Pretend to be really overly-trusting 'oh go out with him, he sound fun!" kinda thing??.... it's a bit late for me on this one as i already texted back saying "ooh look at you with all thre boys chasing you haha x" as a friendly joke. But this thing or similar situation has happened before and will continue to happen to fellow PUAs. How would you guys best deal with this kind of thing? Or, what dyu think about my reaction? Good? Bad? Something inbetween? Cheers in advance gentlemen!     
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18-11-2009, 11:28 AM
Hmmm. I've been getting similar things with the girl I've been texting/seeing recently. I've just been ignoring anything I'm not interested in hearing and and talking about the things I want to talk about. The strongest reality wins.
It sounds like she is defo testing you. I don't think you reacted in a bad way though.
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18-11-2009, 11:34 AM
lol, women and their tests eh...
i wonder why they persist on testing us, after we've already had them?! it's like putting your star striker on the pitch in injury time when your 3 -0 down lol.
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18-11-2009, 11:47 AM
I know what you mean. It is relentless. They want to keep you on your toes, make sure you are genuinely interested I guess. Not only this but they are testing how certain you are of yourself. If you start kicking off about these little things or react to them by being jealous she will loose attraction for you. One or even a few shags with one girl isn't gonna seal any deals or mean that you can slack or rest on your laurels with her. This is only part of the game. The more I learn the more I see there's no room for complacency. Keeping a cool strong frame is always important if you are to THE man.
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18-11-2009, 11:53 AM
Women + insecurities = needs you to constantly be - The man.
Nice one Nova, I like it.
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18-11-2009, 11:59 AM
I'd probably joke back but that's just a personal preference probably something like being chatted up by a bus driver or if you are being really risky something about the taxi driver abducting her (but this has got to be done with the right kind of girl as you could totally freak her out).
This also means you have your own little thing you can refer back to and link to things/situations, for example when she turns up on saturday you can mention something about how the taxi driver has stood her up. The only problem I have with nova's approach is that you might come off as not being able to take a joke or being unfunny "It is if he puts his balls between the strings, and strums himself to ecstasy!"
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18-11-2009, 12:20 PM
I think you're comeback text was fine. Like Nova has said don't let it phase you, be indifferent to it with a 'whatever' sort of attitude and throw it back at her with a humourous, light-hearted spin. If you just respond indifferently and/or humourously (essentially indifferent or positive) then she doesn't get the negative feedback she's digging around for to see how secure you are.
See that text she sent as a great opportunity to show you're worth, that her plan has back-fired and she's naievely set herself up for a whole plethora of witty retorts. I'd have said something like 'Cool, well that's handy because he can pick us up in the cab, it'll be like you're on a double-date, you lucky girl.'
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18-11-2009, 12:48 PM
Both my sisters have little kids and the one thing I have learnt about dealing with them when they are being especially childish is that any response, negative or positive, counts as encouragment.
The silly games that girls play are no different... I would have ignored her text, replying just validates her. But then again I have been told by girls that I can be a bit of a c*nt! Failing that I would have just called her up on it and texted her saying 'Ah bless... are you trying to make me jealous?' I'm sure there is not right or wrong though... sounds like you've done pretty well so far!
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18-11-2009, 01:03 PM
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18-11-2009, 02:26 PM
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this is classic, i wish i'd used this one! to be honest, my reavctions eems to have worked well, today did a confirmation text, plus we had a bit of flirtation both ways, and she replied very keenly indeed. at least i got a silence-destroyer now for saturday should we need it... 'so the taximan stood you up did he??' etc etc... its good reserve material! thanks for the tips again Gents!!
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