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Default 06-04-2013, 02:51 PM

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Maybe he's grooming them?
Indeed, haha!


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Default 07-04-2013, 03:06 PM

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you have to earn the name Barney.
I figured, why not aim high and since t.v. has a painstakingly high influence in modern day life, why not use a favourite characters name with a personality and charisma that I'd aspire to have.
I was gonna put "Casanova" but thought that would be a bit too ballsy haha.

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are you sure you've listened to the blueprint?

In my experience, as far as confidence/body language is concerned, you already have the mannerisms of a cool guy inside you somewhere, but you may struggle to bring this out sometimes.

I was lucky to have found this forum and was able to go out with some cool people, which boosted my confidence. Things like eye contact and body language sort themselves out when you are in a relaxed and social state of mind (especially applies to newbies). The good news, even a beginner can sort out body language etc very quickly, by getting into "state". You do this by approaching everything that moves (before anyone thinks "i dont need to do this!", not everyone does need to be a approach machine - this applies to beginners, mostly)
Big rule when you're out, make sure you get to a point where you are relaxed and feeling good. This is probably 80% of your game.
I listened to Blueprint Decoded maybe 6 months ago (I'm not sure) and then I went on holiday and felt pritty damn amazing. Since coming back up North, something that I told myself I'd never do again, I've become very sluggish and bored. Totally downhill if I'm honest. So I will re-listen to Blueprint Decoded, can't do any harm.
I think that is my problem, my confidence levels are down but if I went out with a group of people I'd feel much better and gain an understanding of how you guys have success. I always feel a hell of a lot more confident in a group and generally do talk to people I don't know when I have people I'm familiar with around me. That would also help me relax as well. It won't be something I can just do straight away but hell when you start something, what's the point in giving up huh?
(great place to quote Charles Edison there)

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Maybe he's grooming them?
Sound's more like Neil Strauss antic's haha

Sapmi's got my problems exactly right.. cheers man
Is everyone on here RSD fan's opposed to Mystery and Strauss?

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Default 07-04-2013, 05:13 PM

I think many here are aware of the texts, but a lot of the vibe from people here is be natural about it, you can certainly get started with the books and just get the confidence to start approaching people


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Default 07-04-2013, 06:07 PM

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I think many here are aware of the texts, but a lot of the vibe from people here is be natural about it, you can certainly get started with the books and just get the confidence to start approaching people
I've read the text's, still got them somewhere. But yeah I totally agree, I had great success on holiday just been natural and then there's a great feeling that you get but because you went natural you don't feel like you've 'put it on' so you feel even better about yourself.

It's when I'm by myself that I have a problem approaching, when I'm out with mates or when I even have my good friend; alcohol , I can approach with ease not really caring how I open but more just been upbeat/happy/lively.
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Default 07-04-2013, 07:20 PM

I did my first, normal approach today in Asda to a hot girl holding 2 melons (I did think of going direct but I was a bit too nervous).
It was just a small conversation, nothing spectacular but it made me realise something; it's easy to talk to women!
I built it up like it would be some sort of catastrophic event but I friggen survived maan!!

I did have another girl that said "sorry I'm busy" and walked off. So I was kinda peeved about that but again, it didn't hurt.

I feel Day Game has to be a priority for me; I believe that if I can have confidence in Day Game then Night Game confidence will be easier to have.

People are gonna think "what the fuck" about this but I'm gonna say it anyway because in order to progress you have to start from the beginning and understand the imperfections in order to correct them. Soo, I have only ever been to a club twice in my life not including parties/pubs/lounges.
I've had the belief that I would crumble in a club even though I'm completely fine in parties/pubs/lounges and will chat to people I don't know.

I need a plan of action, I think I'd be fine in a club, it's just the thought of going by myself that scares me shitless and unfortunately my social group in my Casino/poker games (which I am pritty damn awesome at).

How would you suggest planning this improvement?
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Default 07-04-2013, 08:19 PM

Clubs are easy man, everybody is energetic and pretty easy to talk to (mostly because of alcohol), plus with the noise and the music it doesn't really matter much what you open with. The only thing you have to be careful with is dealing with rejection, you will get it you just have make sure you don't let it affect your mindset


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Default 07-04-2013, 08:46 PM

Yeah from my limited experience of the settings you are totally right, I just couldn't go there alone.
Honestly I feel rejection is something I'd handle quite easily, I've come to realise that it's not a big deal. It has an effect for about 5 minutes and then I'd be fine but with girls I'd only just met I don't think I'd be bothered at all.

I feel somewhat disadvantaged by not really going in clubs, since I believe in completing what I started, I will constantly push myself further.
If anyone comes up North for a night out I'd definitely be up for it and I'd be up for travelling for nights out and courses; I'm just dead set on improving.
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Default 07-04-2013, 10:37 PM

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Honestly I feel rejection is something I'd handle quite easily, I've come to realise that it's not a big deal. It has an effect for about 5 minutes and then I'd be fine but with girls I'd only just met I don't think I'd be bothered at all.
It's when you realise it's actually funny that you wonder why you ever cared.


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Default 07-04-2013, 10:41 PM

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It's when you realise it's actually funny that you wonder why you ever cared.
The ones I've had before now, you can only laugh at, your right though when you get to that point where you can just walk away laughing it has no bearing on your night and you don't lose any momentum.


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Default 07-04-2013, 10:50 PM

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The ones I've had before now, you can only laugh at, your right though when you get to that point where you can just walk away laughing it has no bearing on your night and you don't lose any momentum.
Try it sober, then you really won't give a shit.


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