How would you play this one?

[no.fx]

Hey guys!

Going to keep this one sweet and to the point. The story goes:

1.) Meet this girl called Rachael through a mutual friend one night and had a good time. However I didnt pay her much attention and lost her in the club as I was having a blast with my mates

2.) Talk on facebook and obtain her number

3.) We have been texting however she has yet to initiate the convo, once I initiate the convo she keeps it going until she presumably goes to bed

4.) I usually leave her a few days then text her again.

5.) Went out with her the week after she supposedly "lost her friends and stayed with me, tried taking her back to mine however was foiled by LMR (which I didnt tackle)

5.) Her mate (female) came down for a night out the following week, I was abit late to the club and got a text from her asking whether I was in the club yet (IOI). Got on well with her mate and focused mainly on her mate! Kissed Rachael at the end of the night

6.) Exchanges texts over last weekend and finally got the balls to ring her, to ask if she wanted to grab a coffee or grab a quick snack to eat (as i have never talked to her not in a club situ), she didnt answer nor text me!

Now my feeling is she has had a few bad relationships and that when I tried taking her back to mine she thought I was one of those guys!

I will be seeing her 2morrow night, I think she will come and find me and follow me for the night. Should I call her up about not answering or say what I was going to say to her on the phone that I wanna have a proper convo and I will ring her tomorrow to sort out a time and pretend I never called her? Or do I just play it like I am not bothered?

Peace

NO.FX

[Tom]

One thing I've found if you start trying to read what she is thinking you will usually get it wrong, and because of this projection of her thoughts you will act in a way that may actually change the positive way she was acting in the first place.

For example I sent my GF a text the other day but she didn't reply for a longer time than she usually does. I thought I might have offended her but she rings me later and all it was that she was out for a run.

If you start thinking she is thinking negative thoughts you are going to act in a negative defensive way and your actions and hers will reflect this, but if you act in a positive cool way then your actions will likely have a positive effect.

As Jaz says the seems like there is attraction there, step back a bit you don't want to be bothering her all the time as it will appear needy.

[brasiliano]

I agree with jaz and tom, i dont think you should mention her not answering at all, just play it cool and when you see her out have some fun with her , tease her, bit of push and pull talk to other girls too. and go in for the kill and get that kiss, it does sound like she is attracted.

[no.fx]

right an update......

Things have taken a turn for the worse. I have tried a few time now to get her on a day 2. Firstly I mentioned that I will teach her how to play squash (something that is fun and I have a passion for, her best mate also plays it).

Admittedly this is abit of an AFC thing to do however I also asked her over fbook chat to go for coffee, to which she replied saying she doesnt like coffee, she has lectures and her and her mate are going to liverpool. Now imo, if she was interested she would have said "well i have lecture from x till x, so what about X or well I am not a fan of coffee why dont we grab a quick bite to eat etc"

Am I not correct.....?

The only thing I can think of is that she likes the attention that she gets from guys and likes stringing them along.

I am going to be seeing her on wednesday at a house party, so I am thinking of just playing it cool, not speaking to her much but not ignoring her and see her reaction..

Whats your thought?

[Status]

You're right, she seems to have withdrawn. Don't pursue her, she's not worth the effort. If she wants you, let her chase you.

The party could be a great time to build attraction. If she see's you lording it up with other girls, she may well approach you.