How can you play a player????

[LexLuther]

So I thought I would try and pick you guy's brains on this.

I met this girl last year, she worked on the canteen in my college
so i saw her everyday. Anyway I decided I would play like a shy guy as 1)
I was in an LTR and 2) it has worked for me on many occasions.

So for about six months I was putting off the real approach but I could
see this was building attraction, e.g. flirting and some IOI.

Eventually coffee girl tells me that when I leave the college, she will
miss me and what will she do etc. So I tell her I'll come back
to say hi. I am seeing that she really wants me, and I finish with my girl.
Not for coffee girl, but it played a part as things werent working
out anyway.


Eventually, I see (CG) one morning and she asks why Im sad? so I tell her
about the break-up. She tells me that its cool joking that now me and her
can get it on. Also she tells me that she thinks her BF is cheating.
She even asked me 2 be a private investigator
and check it out for her, but i declined.

Anyway she tells me to come and see her at the end of the day, so when
I do she just gives me her number and tells me to text her (result).
Problem is, I know she is with someone now, so I have to play this one
wise.

Send her a few texts, with no response. Only
when I see her she tells me she got the text blah blah...
But eventually I ring her and try to arrange a meet.
She agrees but says that she dont like going out. But if
I want, I can come to her place, so I go.

When Im there she is cooking, this is bad though because,
Im starting to picturemy next LTR. Anyway we start chatting
and get on to the subject of my new ex, her choice of convo
but after the evening goes nice and chilled, a few glasses of wine
later she says she is tired so I leave. Also while Im at the
door she is blowing me kisses???


Two days later she asks me, whilst making me coffee,
if I want to come and water the plant again?
Im thinking, this is definately an invite now so I
go to hers again but this night takes a different turn.

On my way over Im telling myself, dont expect anything
cos she is with someone etc, but when I get there
she cooks for me and offers me her BF's
canned drink from the fridge (scandalous).
But then we start talking about her, OMG
big mistake, she starts complaining about her
BF bla bla eventually I think fuck it and tell her what Im here for.


She tells me first, that she didnt think of me like that
and we are just friends, but then I tell her bullshit
as she was sending out mad signals. She starts giggling
at my frustration and admits that she is attracted to me but
she doesnt want to cheat. I was pissed cos she tells me
that if I would have tried the previous night it would have
been on. Anyway I told her I dont wanna see her again
as it will be embarassing and she starts to look guilty but I dont care.

The next day at college I dont go to the canteen
she rings my phone telling me that I should come and talk.
So I go and she gives me the maybe in the future,
who knows speech. So I tell her cool and try to forget her.

Update... I phoned her to see what she was up to,
and she told me to visit her as I dont go to that college
anymore, so I went in to pick up something and quickly
said hi to her. This girl's game is tight and it's made me
want it more as she played me. Even while I was visiting
I could not get in the right frame to even make her laugh,
she was doing it to me arrrrgh.

Any help would be majorly appreciated. Sorry about the length guys.

[Tom]

I think when she invited you back to her place that was her basically saying she wants you. In fact she even told you something along those lines the next day.
I think if you go round there again you have to be flirty and direct, if you see a chance to kiss her do it.
I would only do this for a bit of fun, you can't get into a relationship with her you already know she invites guys round her place when she seeing someone.

[legend]

I dont like girls messing about and she's showing that by sending you all these mixed signals and you said that you knew that too. My advice: be straight with her and tell her to stop messing you about and ask her if she wants to hook up again for a bit of sexy fun. If she is still being an arse, tell her to call/text you when she up for it. Leave it at that. Dont bother going to the college to see her until she gets in touch with "come over to mine to water the plants"...!
Much Success....

[LexLuther]

'Pretending to be a shy guy, or anything you're not is totally lame.'

Sorry I didnt really mean shy,
just ignored her more like a neg.
the LTR of 4 years knocked some confidence out of me and
I didn't want to get caught out either.


'she invites guys round her place when she seeing someone.'

Couldn't be more true, so yeah keep it just for fun but I think
she shit tested the fcuk out of me so I probably blew any chance
of getting back into her flat.

I guess what i really wanted to know is, should I
still carry on trying or give up? but I think thats answered, Thanks.

[Shark]

If you like her then go play Direct-Game. Tell her what you want, tell her it's what she wants but tell her you're quite busy this week, so she will have to wait until next week to see you...if she is a 'player' then call her bluff and threaten to walk away (if she is messing you about anyways then you have nothing to loose)