Okay so I'm new on here but considering what I've read, I'm not new to some ways a PUA works.
I started reading The Game by Neil Strauss, its the first book I've read in about 4 years and about 1/4 of the way through I realised my life is like a friggen tape recorder doused in self pitty and shame. For too long have I sat back and allowed my feeling of sorrow take over my life even though I had a damn good reason; my gf was killed in a car crash. But just as I thought 'shit I might need to actually get help' I came across the book and seriously I think it's the best therapy I could have received and for a fraction of the price, might I add.
Now I'm hitting on girls (mainly on-line) but I need to build confidence. I noticed I walk with more confidence. My mind has almost taken control and I use to be a "good-guy" now I literally have 2 women chasing me and honestly I couldn't care less, I just want to meet new people instead. I'm flirting with model's (lingerie and naked) I'm getting invited to spend the week with various girls who "want to see me so badly", hell a girl even offered to buy me plane tickets and to meet her famous sister in Miami. And all this felt good, it felt like I was climbing the world's social ladder.
I guess the main reason I don't go out sarging is simple; I don't want to bring a girl home to have sex in my parents house. So what do I do. Make her wanna take me to her house? Or rent a room? Or even still, just number close/kiss close every girl?
Also, the approach, does anyone have a method to calm the fuck down when approaching set/s? - I'm fine doing it just my heart rate hits borderline insanity!

Thanks and happy sarging

YNNAD

"lets chill at your place, i'll get the drink in (24hr garage)".
or blatantly lie (i live near you, share a cab)..then excuse (i need a wee)...women just need an excuse, not a good excuse.

And to calm down when approaching? Everyone gets anxious of approaching to some degree. You need to keep approaching. The more you do it the less scary it will be. Also check out Blueprint Decoded.

hope this helps

I can't judge cos I used to be a sly like this, that being said this is the kind of shit some weirdo on here might read and next thing you know police are involved for whatever reason..

Personally I'd be straight up and say you live at your parents so either their place, cheap hotel or party's over.

If your ashamed of living at home then move out, don't lie about it.

Db

That's the problem; I don't want to lie about it but in some sense, it's making me think twice about getting out in the field.
On-line sarging is easy, not even a challenge anymore. Last night alone I pocketed 3 girls personal phone numbers; 1 French girl and 2 American girls.

After analysing years of reports I do every sarging night I have realised, in order to improve my game I either need to move up or come up with a routine for "sex at your place".

i'll try to help you one more time, take it or leave it. To be honest, i've been to their places more than mine.

You don't need a "routine", you lead them as much as possible. Take them out of the club for something to eat. Screen for logistics before hand. You can find out then whether it's down that night or not.

i.e"where do you live, who you out with, what you doing tmrw"...be subtle about it.

be fun and normal in the interaction. Try not to spend the whole time snogging. Have fun with her and her friends. Do rounds if you want. Nothing wrong in buying her a drink if the interaction is going well.

Make sure you're aware of club closing times. She will rarely go home with you at 10:30. The girls you're around with at 2ish are the ones you're likely to pull. Use line like "lets chill at yours", or "going that way anyway, just pop in for one beer"...

if you're going to her place, she wants you to take full responsibilty. She could say "he only popped by to go loo, on way home, we had a beer, one thing led to another etc" Not way say to her "lets go to yours to have sex"..... she doesn't want you or anyone else thinking you're a slut. Just lead her and be as chilled and fun as poss. The more normal you are the better. Remember, for you, going back to a girls place should be the most normal thing in the world for you. It happens all the time! Guys who haven't even heard of pickup do it! They don't need routines, its normal! If you're sexual in your game, it helps. You can talk to her about sex, in a non creepy way.

Hope this helps. It took me a while to get to this stage

I know you might not take help from a newbie in THIS forum. But if you want then change you routine a little bit and make it seem like you're not from anywhere around. Say you're out on a stag night. Then say your mates have buggered off and left you alone. If you play your cards right, she should feel anything but threatened from bringing you back to her place.

Hope I was able to help.

-Mark

'Mystery' : It's not lying, it's flirting.

Mystery: 'It's not lying, it's over compensating for the fact I'm a total narcissistic head case who needs Valium hits to get me through the self-loathing every day. Hey! who lies more? Men or women?'

Why lie? it means you then have to keep up the pretence and build lie upon lie.

Become comfortable with the truth. You then become more confident in yourself

It's ok to live with your parents. I know loads of friends and girls did until their late 20s.
It doesn't make you appear "uncool", it just makes logistics a little harder.

Guys, awesome! I'm working on something that is air tight, I'll test it over a period of 1 month and update the progress, if it is good shit then I'll offload it to the masses.

I've however, found the key most single area of my Game that needs to be improved so I am working on that as well. I've found after 40 dates that I literally don't give a shit, if I like her I will continue but if she "isn't my type after-all" I'll just walk away after the date; even if we have a 2nd date arranged. I see myself as more of a Casanova; I'd rather sleep with 100-150 great women than sleep with 400-500 women.