Building comfort with a girl who at the moment hates you
 

Hi there,

There is this girl I used to work with and we both liked each other. But our contracts expired and we didnt meet after that, but we still kept in touch online. I did the biggest mistake of telling her I liked her and I did it online. She didnt take it that well. That's when I found out about these techniques of picking up women.

She cut me of all contact after I said I liked her and as an explanation she only said I made things awkward between us by saying it.

Recently I saw her somewhere closeby to where I work and she tried to avoid me. I am not desperate or anything like that but, Im still new to all this even though I've had my fair share with girls.

My main problem is building comfort with her now. Im not sure what to say when we meet again. I know her very well and I know exactly how she's going to react when we come together next time. Im sure some of you must have already come across situations where the challenge is to build comfort with a girl who isn't interested.

Would very much appreciate if anyone could give me advice on what to say to make her be comfortable around me again because we used to be very close. She used to tell me everything in her life but not anymore. I want to make her trust me again. I know exactly what not to say.. but in my case Im not sure what to say. Im sure there is a way much appreciate. Peace OUT!

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Do you realise this is one of the most common pussy-ass stories there is? Why are you wanting to regain her trust so you can continue to creep her out?

You've become untrustworthy, she told you everything because she trusted you. Now you tell her all this shit, and she's understandably angry at you.

You can say 'look there's no need to be immature about this, I've said it, lets move on' and you can be friends again (never as good as you were though).

Or you can go fuck some other girls and forget about her.

You don't have to be a rocket surgeonI think the second part of the quote I used there says it all.

Leave it. This is a train wreck waiting to happen.

Focus on getting over the fascination that you have with her and becoming a more awesome you. Take up some hobbies, read books, socialize more, make friends and find other girls

Then if/when you see her again either you will be more attractive to her or you won't care. My money is on the latter.

she was never into you in the first place. whats the point in being her friend anyway, you only wanted to fuck her.

stop lying to urself.

if anythin, its you who should be shunning her, she is supposed to be your friend and coz she finds our you had human emotion, she treats you like that.

sounds like a cunt. move on.

and lose the creepyness

Probably the single best advice here.

It sounds so obvious doesn't it. Once you understand how to be confident and successful.
don't forget that this guy doesn't have the experience and knowledge you have.

Look in the reviews section mate, get hold of some PUA videos and books. Go out as much as possible and put this shit into practice. Within a month you will have forgot about this girl. You will see a big change in yourself.
Then come back here and tell us all about it :)

So true. We all have to start somewhere.

The key is not only reading up and researching this sh*t, but getting out there and gaining personal reference experience with girls. Have fun, experiment, and most important of all be patient with it. You are not going to solve this with a quick fix.

As for building comfort? That's what you will be doing with all the new girls you will be meeting. This will soon get you wondering why you ever thought so highly of the couple of average looking girls at work.