How important is sex life in your relationships ?
 

So you meet a girl, she ticks allot of your boxes. You dont want to "Game her " just spend time with her as you enjoy her company

the time comes when you sleep together, but the sexual chemistry isn't there

What do you do ?

Invest time into her thinking it will all pan out and you can express all your sexual desires ?

or do you end it

This is a problem I have encoutered

I either meet a girl who I have fantastic sexual chemistry with but she has a long list of other issues ( or my issues )

Or its the other way round and the sex is lacking

Something I'm interested in too....she says she has low drive, but was pretty good to begin with, maybe it's me not lasting long....(working on it tho)

How long do you roughly last ?

I have the problem of lasting too long to the point where I cant climax through blow jobs or it hurts the girl because im taking too long


which you may think is good.. but after the point where you stop, the girl is satisfied but your not.. sometimes this bothers me.. just depends on the girl

It has been stupidly short, less than a minute
I fancy her like crazy, very pretty and for me she has the perfect body without fault and soon as I see her I'm half way there

Man, if you're going out with girls 'out of your league' what does that tell you? That they're in your 'league'. Accept it, deal with it and build on it. Don't live in her shadow.

Regarding the main point, I've always based relationships around sex. It's extremely important for me. If the sex isn't A+, it's not on. That's not to say I'll stick with a girl just for sex, I just mean if she's sticking around, she'd better be on my page in the bedroom.

I never said she's out of my league, I was simply stating that I find her so attractive

By the 'for me' I meant in terms of my opinion

But yes I think sex is important, surely it's the whole attraction thing early on, then sole mates etc should come with time, not a substitute

It's something I think about when I meet really cool and attractive girls, although me getting them into bed is hard work at the mo.

Perhaps you need to get to know each other in bed a bit more?

Get off this forum.

NinjaE - Why not test out your theory of 'working on it' and see if this can be resolved later, better sex with time? At least if you exhaust this theory you'll know for future girls and you won't have doubt in your mind after you blow them off.

Holding ur beans comes with age

It's worth sticking with. I wasn't feeling it at first with my current girlfriend; I honestly could've taken or left sex. But after a few weeks and a couple of months we found our rhythm (no pun intended) and now it's probably the second best sex I've ever had (and there's no shame in being second to the best sex I've ever had). See how it goes in the coming few weeks and if you're not feeling it then make a decision.