complete newbie first field report
 

Not much to say here guys but its worth recording so hopefully someone can see where i went wrong :confused:

so been listening to the rsd decoded and david de angelo double your dating as what to do and how to approach,
i think the only thing that has stuck in me so far is the confident approach

to cut a long story short i only approached one woman when i was out :vroam:
well i still cant get over my approach anxeiety so me and my friend were at a pub/club where the dancefloor is surrounded by a hand rail kinda like a cattle sale LOL
i think this makes all the men that sound round the rail into leeching perverts so i didnt look into the dance floor much
anyway when i did i cought the eye of one woman who was with two other friends, now i had to approach someone tonight as it was getting on and i had no openers or any clue what to say, so i thought the main thing here is just approach without being outcome dependant at all, just try to talk with her for a couple of minuites, it was a very loud club so couldnt hear much

so i approached really confidently and it felt good, tried to show a positive body language without being full on to her
but all down hill from here on
" hi there are you from town?"
"yes"
"what oh you are what part?"
cant remember what she said but i just went completely blank and walked away :cry:

I would suggest getting out of the bar, night club land and doing somthing thats not related to picking up girls and instead has a common goal, like joining a gym and doing spin classes or a dance class etc-- you get to meet girls and chat to them without it being obvious you are on the pull
nice easy way of building your confidence up

or alternatively find a wing who has confidence and tag along and pcik up his dregs haha

Aw mate! Too bad about going blank but Refl3x is totally right about finding a common goal to strive for. I've always found that when picking up girls ISN'T the focus, I have better luck, because I'm more relaxed.
So yeah, hit the gym, take dance classes, join a theatre group or something!
Best of luck man, keep us posted :D

- Jack a.k.a. Volta

scorpio, why do you think you did summat wrong!

You say you can't get over approach anxiety. You did get over it. Right there in that moment you did talk to woman. It felt good. You felt confidence. Nowt wrong with that.

You went blank. So what! Nobody died. You're free to talk to women again anytime. All good.

Scorpio my friend, your night was a 100% success.

Your aim was to go out and approach, right? Well, you went out and approached.

There! That's it! In that one moment of taking action, you outdid your entire pick up career thus far. You achieved your goals, you overcame your anxiety, and you went for it.

We all get approach anxiety. Fuck, I suffer big time from it. We all run out of things to say, we all fuck things up. We're all human, just like you, just like everyone else.

But, you took action, and you made something happen.

Now, heres two things I want you to think about:

1. That girl, who you think you fucked up talking too? It doesn't matter that you fucked up. It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. I can't stress this enough. It doesn't fucking matter. You're never going to see her again, she's forgotten about it already, so should you. Ok? Understand what I'm saying? Good lad.
2. Next time out, you're going to approach two. Yep? And, as well - approach two, and get them done early. Suck up that AA, and go make a tit of yourself all over again. I bet if you do two within the first hour of being out, you'll do a few more by the end of the night.

But well done. You did everything right. You've taken your first steps. Excellent! Keep going, my friend. You're on the right tracks.

CO

Ps, Are you ever out in Liverpool?

Heroic quote.

im out tonight. medication tho...

Agree with all of the above. Just wanted to say don't beat yourself up you made an approach, that's positive. Nothing good in life is easy, keep working on improving yourself :)

pua is such an arse. keep doing approaches but chill out and convey your personality in set. dont become an overly energetic performing ape becaus its impossible to sustain and is incongruent. Do talk about them, do share, do be outcome indifferent, do kino a bit, do make eye contact. Dont worry about what they think of you, what do you think of them?

Scorpio lover!
Great to see a first field report. One approach on the first night is fine. Now the more you approach, the less scared you will get, believe me! Once you realise you wont die after you have approached a few women, you will be more at ease talking to them. Honestly you can spout any random crap to them, especially when out in a club/pub. You will get rejected, thats life, but it's how you handle the rejection that is important.

Eventually you will fucking love going out and socialising. It becomes an addiction..something you look forward to all week, and as your interactions get better you will have the time of your life. Pickup and socialising is fun, so go out as often as you can. This is an important area of your life to sort out. I would look into RSD more carefully. That stuff really works and you dont have to spend a penny getting the information from Google.

Good luck man!