It finally dawned on me, 'don't be outcome dependant'. It literally feels like I've been reborn in to a PU god lol
. Below is a brief field report of my Saturday night.
I've been 'seeing' a girl (A) for two weeks or so, just meeting up, doing random shit together. I got the impression from her that she liked playing games, for example she'd be awkward and distant one moment the lovely the next. This was pissing me right off but she was gorgeous, so I thought fuck it, its only till Saturday then I can finally shag her.
So I was over my mates on Saturday night after the rugby, there's loads of people there, and me and my mate ended up having a laugh with a few girls, just having a bit of banter. Around about 10 we headed into town, so I text girl A to meet up with her, but she didn't text back. First of all this put me in a bit of a downer, but one of the girls from my mates started taking the piss out of me and it really cheered me up having some banter with her (I called her leprechaun coz she was like 4' and a red head). I was still pissed off but was having a good flirt by now with the leprechaun.
At midnight girl A text me and says she's dying to see me, lets go back to hers. First thing I was landed, I thought yes I'm finally gonna shag her. Then I looked around and realised how much fun I was having with everyone here, so I text her back and told her to come to me. It was literally like a weight lifted from my shoulders, I'd done what I wanted whereas before I would have run to her like a lap dog just to have sex. I had one of the best nights out ever, and ended up going to a house party in a 10 bed student house which was MAHOOSIVE. Didn't end up shagging leprechaun, but almost had a threesome with two 'chubby' (ish
) girls, until my mate took a shit in one of their rooms, which kinda ruined the moment lol.
My whole aim when I go out has been to pull, that's what I thought made a good night out. I still had good fun with my mates but pulling a nice girl was what I wanted. Now I just want to have fun. My mate has been this way for years, go out and see where the night takes you, and what a way to be it is.
After the house party me and two mates bumped into a hen party from Edinburgh (sexiest accent in world) that we convinced to come back to my mates house, and I ended up with one of the brides nieces.
For anyone that couldn't be arsed to read, here's what I learnt:
1. Do what you want.
2. Have fun/Be fun.
3. Don't get played, its not worth it (the girl has text me and I just said 'If u wanna come over and fuck let me know'
).
4. DON'T BE OUTCOME DEPENDENT!!! Take it as it comes.
Hopefully some guys new to PU will find this helpful, but I do understand that at the start its very hard to not give a fuck.