Today i went into town to do the newbie challenge but i couldnt bring myself to do it. So I started opening people working in shops with things like do you have the new deadamau5 album and stuff like that about 5 openers in different shops. After abit of shopping i decided to try out a few approaches in the street and managed to ask a couple of people for directions and then left. Today was the 1st time i have went out during the day and i feel i have reached a turning point because i actually went out and started. Any ideas of what to do the next time i go out, i was thinking i could compliment women on their style or something that there wearing then leaving. At the minute im trying to make small steps. I felt like going direct on a couple of hbs 2day but i didnt feel confident enough to do that yet. Any ideas of what i should do when i go out tommorrow or any openers for day game?

2nd day

today i went into a shop in town and approached 2 woman working there saying i needed to buy a present for my sister and then another 1 for my mum and that i had no idea of what to get or whats stylish at the moment. The 1st 1 just told me to buy a gift card and i had a brief convo with her. the 2nd convo lasted longer she started showing me different handbags and i talked to her about fashion even though i dont have a clue about it just bullshitted lol.

I asked girls in another shop how to get to the cinema i should have kept the convo going but it was after i had paid for something and i felt nervous. I asked another couple of people on the street for directions aswell.

I have came up with an opener u ask her how to get to the local cinema, then say have you seen the new bruno film to keep the convo going. Then if she hasnt say do you fancy going to see it sometime.

I think my aa is going down now although when i see the really hot chick working in the shop i tend to avoid her and go to the next one down lol. Im beginning to keep the convos going aswell. im feeling more confident walking around town by myself aswell before i felt less confident if i was by myself.

And ideas of where to go from here im going to start going to shops less and try and talk to more people on the street. Any ideas of openers that i could use? im trying to go natural and avoid using canned material other than an opener.

i think asking for directions then asking for a number at the end may appear weird.

one opener i think may work is "if you were going on a date with me where would you like to go" do you think this may work im not sure if im confident enough to go direct yet.

cheers man very good advice do u just wing it when u go direct or do u already have it planned. If you just went up and said "hey i just had to tell you that your the most beautiful girl ive seen all day ive got to go and meet some friends but can i get your number"

Kowalski IS the improv King!

Cass,

As the guys say Improv is cool, but followed with it is - 'if you can do it'... I am fairly new to this myself, although I threw myself in at the deep end. Did my 5th sarge session in Las Vegas and now take improv classes locally during an amateur dramatics club, which is actually really fun!

Personally, I wouldn't just go up to someone and throw them a compliment straight away, reason - if the conversation did go anywhere and you DHV then you've already given her 'a point' for just being there and complimenting her, think about how many times women here compliments and try something unique, two ideas for you on this;

Run up to a guy with some girls and use the one Style talks about...
"Hey man where did you get that top" "I used to have one just like it, but I gave it to a ex-girlfriend to borrow one night and guess what? After we split I never got it back, now I'm learning that I need two of every top I like"

(DHV showing pre-selection, under the radar approaching the guy in the group)

If you can be cocky funny with it, try a backhanded compliment...
"those shoes are a bit... but I really like that top" or "is your hair real? well it's nice anyway" (most likely to use this on a girl who is hot and knows it to bring them down a few pegs)

If your day-gamining try this, go into a coffee shop and throw the "what's good to eat/drink here?" to either customer or staff, although customer works better whos waiting in line, thats the opener and then just work from there...

Open with: "whats good here" (customer or staff)
Root with: "always walked past this place but never been in"
Time Constraint with "I can't stay long because got an appointment to get to but..." (get the coffee in a take out cup)

or ask a staff member "what could you recommend?" and then go for something different (thats was someones material from, Mystery's lounge I think and it gives you a subtle joke with her).

Fluff for a bit...

Run a piece to get a hook possibly "caffine stimulates the brain but can make it more receptive" then go into a ESP or Cube type effect,
Finalise with a DHV a bit more fluffing and a # close.

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Again I appreciate some guys on the forum don't like canned material but I don't have a great deal of knowledge about your current experience, and I think I was the same a few months ago. Key is take baby steps to get a feel for material however, sometimes it is worth just flying in at the deep end crashing and burning and then evaluating where it went wrong.

If you are starting out you can just approach a group ask a question or opinion opener, remember to give the false time constraint and root it then when you get the answer if you don't feel comfortable or cant think what to say, follow up with your eject "pleasure meeting you" and walk off, nothing lost but something gained - you opened!

Good luck with it buddy
Ambitious

my computer is being stupid i was trying to add

"Kowalski's stlye is amazing and he gets amazing results - some good advice there however, it depends on your approach style and what works for your personality..."


Grrrr!

Cheers,
Ambitious